There is nothing wrong with dating a man 9 years older than you. My husband is 8 years older than me and we have been together for 21 years, happily married for 17 years. I suggest that you don't rush into any ideas of marriage or living together, though. It is always wise (no matter any age difference) to know the good, the bad, and the ugly of anyone you are dating before making a more serious commitment.
It is legal, but somewhere down the line, you may find that you don't have much in common. It seems to work a bit better if the male is older since a lot of men aren't mature, so if it is the guy who is 28, surprisingly you may just have the same mentality. Go for it; only time will tell, and good luck.
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Well, you're legal, he won't go to jail for it, but that's a big age gap, you probably won't have much in common and the lust will eventually fade away. Just remember that women live longer than men and is you marry this guy, you'll end up being his nurse. Women should marry a man slightly younger than themselves, that way they'll be on the same time frame at the end.
Too old? No. Maybe you're too young. But my 21 yr old friend was dating a 31 yr old for over a year to find out this guy was dating her cause he missed his younger age. Meaning he wasn't very mature, Point: he might be older in age but it doesn't make him any more mature than any other guys. Get to know him and make sure your parents are good with it. Cause if they're not they'll make it hell, and drive him away.
It depends. Obviously it is legal, but there is a great deal of maturity that should occur between the ages of 19 and 28. If you are very mature, and the 28 year old is not immature, it may work. On the other hand, if the 28 year old is immature, you may want to steer clear.
Im in the same situation. Only I am 17 and he is 26. I've liked him for 3 years but I have not been able to gain the courage to tell him. I talk to him in person everyday yet I can't get up the guts to tell him how I feel.