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How can I find someone to just listen to my problem and maybe advise me what to do?

What can I do I feel like nothing is working and now so depressed I dont even want to leave this room.

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Dear Alilbit2spicy,
I think you have made a good start already...are any of your problems things you could feel comfortable posting on Ask?

You can get a variety of input, various ways people have found that works for them. (Plus good words of encouragement).
In fact, I might bring up right now, for example, do you enjoy reading? That is something you could do at home...
And if so, is there a book club in your area...you see where I am going, just to perhaps give yourself a rest from the feelings of despair...a chance for some emotional healing to rebound naturally, with some congenial human contact.

And the other idea I would just bring up at this moment is to search if you have thoughts of self-harm, because those of course you would want to seek professional support, keeping yourself safe...

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Two years ago in April I lost my job, in May same year my home burned down. I am almost 50 years old and I have 30 years management experience. I have a problem finding a new job because they state I'm over qualified or will not be happy doing the job because of my experience. I had an abusive husband that cracked my teeth and they have finished breaking, so I look terrible on top of everything else. I can not as you can guess get another place to live with no job. I am about to run out of unemployment benefits which means the 227 a week I have coming in now wont be coming in. In a couple of weeks when that happens I will be forced to living in my car, at least until it gets towed because I can't afford the insurance on it. It just seems one thing leads to another. I am at the end of my rope and the knot is unraveling.
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Hi again,
Perhaps the first issue is some decent shelter for you...
I myself have worked with homelessness and flirted with it in my own life, and I will tell you - it is a national disgrace - there are not good resources for single women without children, middle age. So be prepared for rejection, not to let it get to you.

Consider this: Go on Ask with another question, stating your general location, your time frame, and asking about shelters for single women. Especially if someone here with the username Rheada comes on; she is dynamite at finding anything anywhere.

I know of a woman's shelter in Centralia, Washington and I am going to look it up and come back on; also, if you are anywhere near Ankeny, Iowa then contact the Red Rock Area Community Action Program, ask for Jenna...phone is 515-963-4520; actually I have one more number here, do not remember which one worked best; it is 505-286-2088. They may not have exactly what you need, but at least they do not brush you off.

Okay I will return in a few minutes, when I find that Centralia number.
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In Centralia Washington, the women's shelter is called Twin Cities Missions, or Winnie's Place. The phone number is 360-330-2130. Be prepared however, Winnie herself retired from this project a couple years back, and she was so inspired to work with women...it may not be as good as when I stayed there 2009.

Maybe the next thing, after shelter, is for you to keep your car insurance going...in Centralia again there was a program in one of the churches called LOVE IN THE NAME OF CHRIST, and they would help with short-term emergency funding of such things. I think that is a national program, and maybe churches have it where you are.

By the way, that 505 area code above might actually be 515...I think that is the area code over most or all of Iowa.

Also in Lewis County (which is where Centralia WA is) there is a crisis line called the Human Response Network, 800-244-7414. Look for a hotline or crisis line in your area.

What you are going through is horrendous...may I have your permission to say a prayer for you?
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Just find someone you trust enough to talk to. Someone like a teacher or a counselor. I think you could even talk to a parent or a teacher. Or even your best friend.

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I don't have someone like that to talk to and as I am almost 50 and have no family near me that doesn't work. Since my problems began more and more friends have shown they are not friends but acquaintances.
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Have been there. Trust.

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go talk to a friend u really trust or a family member but when it comes to talking to family i dont really trust them even though there my family but i usually go to my brothers girlfriend she always gives me a great advise actually she is the only one i trust

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not close to any of my family and don't really have any friends I am a loner of sorts and since my problems began two years ago what friends I had are gone
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talk to your religious leader

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If you want to talk to somebody anonymously on the net, here is a good source: http://www.hotlinecounseling.com/ The help is immediate, anonymous and just a click away! Click on choice of your help from email, telephone counseling, video conferencing, talk to therapist online or chat.

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Thanks Jackson, I stuck this into my file of great things I learned on Ask.com.
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the link doesn't work though... you finally get to the site and it says to login but when you attempt to you get an error. I went ahead and tried to have someone contact me via email and nothing. I believe right now they may be down.
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Glad to see you online...even though it still seems like just more dead ends...
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story of my life last 2 years. It doesn't really matter I just really wanted someone to listen that wasn't telling me "if you want a job you would have one" or "all you need to do to stop feeling depressed is just stop doing it" I know now there isn't any help out there for me. Unfortunately that means there is no help out there for others that are in the same boat I am.
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Yes...I try to train myself away from anger, but this is an especially tough one. Although it is improving (I have to believe), the disrespect society shows for women our age is reflected into the social services.
I am going for meditation now...will you continue to come back online?
I am putting in a "friend" request...
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I am online most the time just not on here. I came here as a kind of last resort. Not sure that it will help though
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Why don't you try the hotline again. If it won't work for you please call the mental health center in your area. They will help you for sure. Depression is treatable. It's a terrible load to carry and you will definitely need some help to deal with it.
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the depression is not that big a deal. I have problems that cause the depression. I know this. My last doctor knew this. He advised that when I take care of the other problems the depression will leave. And before any of you ask no I can not go back to him. I have no money to give him and as we all know doctors like money.
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I wouldn't go back to that doctor if he paid me. His advice was terrible. Depression is an illness. A serious illness that can be fatal if it's not treated and it CAN be successfully treated. You deserve the treatment; it is available and affordable. The mental health center WILL get you the treatment that you deserve. I know, in your present condition, it's terribly difficult to do anything but it's necessary and you will feel so much better quickly. Please look up the number, make the call and give them a chance to help you!
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Go on a really high hill top where no one is around and you can see the pretty skyline and mumble to yourself. You're your best friend.

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The first thing you do is gain a lil faith and hope that u believe I'n your self and keep trying and sometimes things happen for a reason and something will always happen last minute but enough to appreciate them when they do not to be taken advantage of, and to remind you to test your own strength and keep trying. Whatever u are depressed about remember that you make your own happiness but u have to be honest with you and give a true effort I'n changing what keeps you from growing. Sometimes depression meds are helpful u can't shake it but usually only u knows what will change the situation to more productive and feel better

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