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Is it bad if I'm 16 and only attracted to girls 19+?

When I say "attracted to" I just mean a very small crush. I don't date yet (I wouldn't date a girl who's that much older than me anyway) and I don't have any inappropriate attraction to them. I don't obsess over any of them, either, and I don't text them like crazy, if not not at all. Like I said, just very small crushes (and not super often). I'm not asking this question because I think this is "cool", I just want to know: is this a bad thing? could there be any bad outcomes of this?

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Don't worry Marcus, there is nothing wrong with it at all. I'm guessing that you find a lot of the girls your own age a bit immature, and you admire the older girls because you expect them to have more maturity. That's just me guessing, but no matter what the reasons for it are, there's nothing wrong with having "crushes" on slightly older girls.

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Ditto!! :P
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Lol :)
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Thanks, BR!
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Welllll actually, is 21 counted as "slightly" older?
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No prob Marcus, and long as you're just admiring them and maybe even flirting a little bit here and there, 21 is okay too.
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Alright. Thanks.
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For sure bud. But if you ever change your mind about your whole abstinence deal, drop it back to legally accepted age levels, for her sake, lol. ;)
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I won't change my mind.
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At your age it is normal for you to have a crash on older women hence not a bad thing. This is brought about by the hormone reaction due to the adolescent stage. The assumption has been that older women bring a sense of maturity and confidence into the relationships though this is not proven.

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Hi Marcus, yes it is normal, especially if you find girls your age and younger immature. There's nothing wrong with that. Just make sure it's not too much of an age difference between the two of you.

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Lol, I knew I should've read your answer before writing one of my own. I wound up saying pretty much the same thing. *Face Palm!*
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Is 21 too old? Like I said, I'm not dating them.
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That's the sweetest thing I've read in a long time Marcus. In a few years age will be just a number, because you will both be adults and it really won't matter. Right now, age is more than a number: you're a child and she's an adult. It doesn't mean you can't love each other but it does mean you shouldn't have sex. Over here, if this was a 21 yr old guy dating a 16 yr old girl they would be calling for his head lol but now it's the other around, so it's not too bad :)

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Thanks, Momo.
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It's only three years older. :) That's not so bad! I went out with a guy 6 years older and THAT was bad. O.O lol, don't do that... XD
Don't worry about it, from the looks of things it seems pretty normal. :D

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Thanks, but I mean 19 PLUS. Lol.
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Ok that scared me for a second until I read the details. Nothing wrong with having small crushes/thinking girls are pretty that are older than you. Thoughts are ok as long as they don't reap actions, like you said, you aren't really pursuing these girls, so it can't really have bad outcomes. (haha maybe that's the real reason you aren't dating yet don't like the 16 year olds:P)

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Lol. That's exactly the reason I'm not dating yet. If I find a girl with morals similar to mine, then maybe. But for now I'm basically telling myself "Not until you're 17." Most girls my age aren't genuine and/or just want sex.
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Idk about the sex part, but yeah a lot of girls are catty, gossipy, and fake at that age. I mean not that I spin that way but I mean even as friends! Bleck.
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Hahaha. Yeah, boys at my age are just as bad.
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Oh gosh-don't even get me started on boys! Haha.
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Lol! Well you, for one, seem to be a very friendly and mature girl.
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Why thank you that means a lot!:)
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