Come off the medication very slowly, decreasing the dosage by 1/4 every 2-3 weeks. There is a lot of literature on coming off anti-depressants. You should look into the Icarus project online and consumer driven peer support networks for further advice on how to come off the medication safely.
I would talk to your dr before stopping your meds. I'm sure they could help you safely find an alternative, in the mean time try lavender. It helps you to relax and be calm. It's an oil so you can use it any time, peppermint can help cheer you up also.
You should NEVER stop taking anti depressants without talking with a doctor first. You may have side effects you should be fully aware of before hand. The other advice you are getting may be completely correct and helpful. But don't keep the doctor out of the loop.