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How do you get your mom to stop yelling at you?

Ok I already know about "sit down and chat" method but that is so not gonna work with this mom. I have no idea why but for EVERYTHING I do my mom yells at me. I ask her a little question, and what does she do? Yell at me. Please make this stop! Do you think running away will help? Or suicide?

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Have you thought that your Mom may be taking out her frustration on you but you are not the one that is making her mad? Sometimes adults take their frustration out on the people they love. They can't yell at their bosses, or the bill collectors,so they take it out on the people they feel safe with. I know you can't sit down with her but try putting your thoughts and feelings in a letter and give it to her. Sometimes when they read something, it has more impact on them. Take a day or two and write it out and give it to her before you go to bed one night. That will give her the rest of the evening to think about what she's read. As far as running away or suicide, those are permanent fixes to a temporary problem and solve nothing.

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Never suicide! Dear one, god cares about this. Seek help from a school counselor or pastor, or an adult that will listen, such as a friends mom. Get help!!

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"If you are doing something wrong, then stop doing it.
Because you probably might think that you are not doing anything wrong, but adults see the things that young adults do as wrong and whether you want to believe it or not they are most of the time correct. So what you have to do first is tell in a nice calm way the you want to talk and then you ask what can you do to be in a nice civilized conversations.

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Get a job, spend more time in school and stay away from your mom as much as possible.

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My mom yells at me but only because I do something WRONG. Like now. I was playing with my dogs and being well as you say it.....to loud.She yelled because I was loud. This has to be the case in this situation. Think to yourself. Does my mom yell at me when I clearly dont do anything. If you answer yes than ask very calmly. " Mom ( Mommy Ma ect) I love you but you yell to much, Id appreciate if youd be less obnoxious and less mean I love you again and am not trying to be mean. LEAVE IT AT THAT! If she yells Tell her your going for a walk. Go to a neighbor friend ect and tell them the whole story. Surely they will help. If not then again talk. If she hits you more than 3 times someone and if that bad the police. ( ONLY FOR AN EMERGENCY. I am sure this is abuse. if she hits,ignores,or yells. Look up abuse online and if all of them are a yes than go to your mom and say. Your abusing me. I hate it! Did you get treated this way? Dont treat me like this. something may be bothering her. If that bad stay away from her... she loves you no matter what. But never commit suicide. Or run away.
Try moving for a while!


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If you've tried the chat thing and it didn't work then write her a letter and explain your feelings to her and see how that works. If that doesn't help then tell her YOU need counseling so she'll get help too. Make her think the counseling is for YOU

Maybe she came from a family of yellers. I've been in homes when yell was the normal tone.
Some people work around machinery all day and they can't ge that roar our of their heads and they think because they can't hear no one else can either.

Never ever think about suicide! Keep talking to people and you'll find someone to help both of you better understand one another. Don't give up, you'll find the answer!

If God leads you to it, He will lead you through it!
You'll walk away from this time in your life a much more wise person.
You're in my prayers dear one!

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First of all, suicide is NEVER the answer! And running a way isn't a good option either. I have some advise that I know works because I have the same problem. If the "sit down and talk" doesn't work for you, this is something that always works. Never yell at your mom. And don't stay away from her either. Even though sometimes its hard, try not to talk back or say something rude in response. If you mom asks you to do something, do it the first time she asks. Mothers seem to get more angry the more she has to ask her child something more than once. Also, this may seem odd, but getting good grades at school lightens parents mood a little bit more. But also, if you haven't tried talking to your mom, try it. You might be surprised! I hope this answer was useful to you, and good luck!

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I know how you feel. I can't do "sit and talk" because it won't work I know it, and i'm not a very mushy, "feeling-expressing" type of person. Just so you know suicide, NEVER THE ANSWER. Running away won't work because she will have the police look all over for you. Trust me, police are good, so they WILL find you. If you're wondering, no I never experienced it myself.
So, I suggest you just let it go. It's the way she is. You don't have any control on the way you mom acts. The only thing you can control is how you act,not counting video games or anything else like that. If that doesn't work, try telling her how you feel. But, you might not be the mushy type, so just try getting better grades. If you have the best grades they can be, oh my gosh your mom must be stressed out. If the grades thing doesn't work, try to do things that lighten the weight on her shoulders. If that doesn't work, aye.... there's one more suggestion and another just thought. The last attempt, if all else failed, try to do more things with her. Ya know, create a special bond. Bye!

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my mom keeps yelling at me when i ask her a simple question like can i get a snack or can this friend stay and ive tried everything but the one thing thats starting to work is helping her work around the house and dont argue with her then she wont have anything to yell about this has been working at my house for a lil while and if you have a brothr talk to them about this and throw in something like if she is happy she will let you do you do this i bet you 99.99% of the time this will work

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just wait 1 day and she will forget.

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First of all, don't commit suicide! I used to think that too, but even if your mom yells at you like crazy, don't die over something like that.
Second, I would not suggest running away, because it will be even more worse for you trust me. For example, I was planning to run away for a reason and when I asked "would you like it if I run away?" , the first thing she said was a huge yell. It will NOT help you.
Third, I'd suggest for you to try to be different from what you are like now. If she stops yelling at you, then that's what you should do! If that doesn't work, try one time, (if she's calm-if she's in a bad mood you can get GROUNDED for life) talking to her. Maybe she will listen, and try to comfort you. Like, when she argues with you, say, "Well, nobody is perfect! That's including me and you!" if that doesn't work, she may ask you what are your good qualities, and list them beforehand just to be safe. While saying that list all her bad qualities and it may work.
That's what I would suggest from my experience

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