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Does having kids change the way you think of your spouse

Is it normal to feel different about your spouse once you have kids together

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Yes. Unfortunatley when you have children there's less spontaneity . Now your both responsible for another human being, how he or she grows up has alot to do with the way they're raised. But also there's alot of joy you both will share with this child. And that in itself is very bonding for you both. You will gain respect in more ways then one from your spouse and your child .:)

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yes you suddenly start to hate him/her for ruining your life

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It not that its ruined the closeness right i hope you dont hate your spouse
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i'm not married that's just what happened to everyone else i know after they had a child.
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sad kids are not the problem
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probably not. but having kid makes people realize there not young anymore and that because of said child there not aloud to do what they want anymore. this makes people angry and the thought tends to run through both halves of the couples minds so they in turn become angry at each-other. there for it changes the way you think. see my point now
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i see isee
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do you think jealousy is normal part of human nature
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It does change the way you think of your spouse, but, it doesn't have to be a bad change. If you let it, it can be a good change that will bring you closer to each other. You have a spouse?

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Oh, and, btw, when you have time to talk, let me know. Because I need to tell you what happened. Don't worry. It's not too bad, though it's not good news.
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what happened hope it wasnt to bad i am just up feeding baby let me know what happened when you get back on
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Well, I don't understand exactly what happened, but Jesse's little sister was flirting with some 20 year olds, so she and her sister are not allowed to get on this website (by her mom, I think). But, Jesse heard her mom say that it was probably only going to be for a week. So, yeah, that's pretty much it.
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ahh i see my son was up from midnight till two last night it ws rough the baby went to sleep fast sfter i fed him hes cute
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He sounds cute. :) Sorry about not getting much sleep, though. So, are you married then?
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its normal married yesi just think what if i made a mistake i cant take it back once your married your married right
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i dongt want to talk about it i just i dont i cant talk on here cuz he will flip out hes older than me 12 years and is suoer jealous ya know
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spelling so thats why i am only on during the day the baby i cant wait til he walks exhausted never a full night sleep
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people keep following me so i follow back not to be rude r u mad at me you seem mad
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Hmm...well, I understand what you mean. Well, I'm not married (obviously), but, if I were in your shoes, I'd remind myself why I married the person in the first place, and I'd try to stay in that mind set. From what I've seen, marriage is tough at times, but, as long as you two stay in love (sometimes it takes work) and you two stay together, marriage can be a wonderful thing. Just try not to second-guess yourself. Just look at your kids, and remind yourself why it is you got married: so that you could have a great family.
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Yeah, we don't have to talk about it if you don't want. Sorry about that. No, I'm not mad. Why would I be mad? I understand what you're saying. You haven't been rude or anything.
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no no these kids are not his well one is and we married cuz i was pregnant and that was what he wanted was a kid i know it was a bad before we got married but i didnt want to disappoint anyone so i am here trying to make life happy and i am aging quick and he says that noone wants a girl with kids that i was lucky i found him but how lucky could i be
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Hey, there's no point in regretting something; the past is the past, and all we can do is change the future. But, he's wrong about no one wanting a girl with kids: there are some guys who don't care. You aren't necessarily lucky that you found him (not in that way, anyways).
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i am thinking of changing my career to nursing more money
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Well, from what I've heard, that's a good field. There's a shortage of nurses at the moment, so they can mostly control their own schedule. So, yeah, that would be good if you wanted to.
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i want to work with kids cuz i love them so much they are so sweet and if i could make one kids homelife better tahn i would be happy but money is way more important just suxs i already sunk a year into social work
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Yeah, kids are pretty good. Sounds like a good cause. But, yeah, money is a problem...I wish it was easier to make.
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well you are all over the place pick a place here or there to type
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Haha! Alright, I guess we can talk over at the other question, then.
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