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what should I do? any one please help

ok so there is this boy I'm dating and he's my age and he's sweet and stuff but we don't ever talk and he gets really shy around me with his friends. he can make me laugh but he's not as much of a boyfriend as he is a friend to me. then there is this boy who's older then me but only by one year, but were not dating but he wants to kiss me and he says to break up with my boyfriend which I don't want to be with either of them but I don't have the lets say power to say no to both of them how should I tell them with still keeping them as friends to me?

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Okay the one you're dating is hard to convince but you have to be straight with him, because in the end somehow you're going to get tired of waiting and your going to end it. So do it from now. But don't make it seem like youre not going to talk anymore. I know it's harder than it seems but face it and solve it. And the older guy, since nothing starts yet, I don't think he'll be mad at you, just tell him I prefer having you as a friend because I don't wanna lose you, and don't put your self under pressure and say yes to him. No because it will sound like you forced yourself.

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Its all in your opinion. U should probably talk 2 the 1 u have now and tell him that he doesn't have to be shy.

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I think that the other guy is jealous of your boyfriend. I would wait a few weeks and see if your boyfriend is a true one.

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I say talk to ur current bf and tell him if he doesn't step up the game and act like a real bf u r going to break up with him. And tell the older guy that u like him but u just aren't ready for him. And if u break up with your current bf you can absolutely NOT go to the older guy right away for 2 reasons... 1, simply put you will just seem like a player 2, to the older guy it will just seem like he was a back up plan. I say give it a month. I hope this helps you good luck!!

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You don't have to be dating anyone if it's putting that much pressure on you then how is your relationship goin to be just think of that for a sec................

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1. Tell your boyfriend you think you're both better off as friends and why (I know dumping him will be hard but he truly isn't your boyfriend and I know you're better off dating someone else)
2. If things go bad with you boyfriend then he doesn't deserve you or your time
3. As for the older boy, don't date him because you don't want to date him
5. If the older boy wants you to be with him say, "I know you want me to be your girlfriend but I don't want to be, I think we're better off as friends because...."

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What's 1 2 3 5?
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Darn it, I meant to put 1, 2, 3, and 4 (please excuse my typing error)
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Well if you talk to your boyfriend then maybe he'll decide to kiss you , in that case you wont have to worry about kissing the other dude, but if you talk to your boyfriend and your boyfriend still does not talk to you then maybe it's time you should break up with him and just be friends. and try the other dude after a couple weeks you break up with him then you see how he treats you!

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I think that you should stop waiting for people to reply to your question and just follow you heart. If you dont see you relationship going anywhere then you need to sit down and have a chat with your boyfriend. But you shouldnt leave him just because another guy likes you. If you dumped your boyfriend then went out with that other guy right after, your boyfriend would probably get pretty upset. Its almost like your saying your not good enough for me anymore so see yah.

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i recently had the same exact problem, minus the other guy. so i was dating this boy, but i realized at Christmas that i just wasnt as into him as i was in june when we met at church camp, idk i just wasnt "feelin it" anymore? he was kind of annoying and immature anyway.. so i broke up with him just b4 Christmas sometime, i felt sort of bad about it cuz it was christmas and all, but i know it was the right decision becuz the relationship wouldve never lasted long anyway. idk if this helps, but i hope it does(:

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