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Ok, I date a man that pays all my bills and gives me a weekly allowance and keeps my medical doctor bills paid, but he will ( read more )

not tell me he loves me and says he is tired of my crap. he hasn't wanted anything to do with me physically for a year now but he has been getting his Viagra prescription filled regularly. we own a business together and there have been all of these trash women regularly calling him and visiting him just so they can get money from him when they want. he says there is nothing going on with these women, should I believe him? he is 30 years older than me too.

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What?!?!? I'm completely sorry, but that is not right. 30 years older??? That is way too old in my opinion. If you love him and he doesn't love you, then he may not be worth your time, unless you still want to work with him and need the money.

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He will not express loving me or liking me at all
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You are staying with him and getting what you want financially with nothing going on between you. You need to see a lawyer or somebody to give you advice on this business and what will happen if he decides not to do it any more with you.

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The business is the last thing I'm worried about, I think he may be bi too and seeing men and other women
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Uhhh it's obvious that he's cheating on you.You have to be careful with those older people they know their more experienced then u so they use that against you.

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I know he tells me I need to take my meds when I get on his butt about this situation. He tells these women I am crazy.
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I don't really think he has feelings for you.Seriously you need to get out of that relationship
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Do you love him or are you just with him for his money? If you don't love him just be content with your conditions. If he is kind to you things could br much worse.

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I actually love the man
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I wouldnt believe him, i wouldnt put up with his crap either. Sounds like you two need to talk, then get out of this relationship,ASAP! You are so much better than that.

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A woman who uses a man financially deserves whatever she gets......no one likes to be used, tinymite.
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Hmm
IF everything you present above is accurate, no, Something is "going on".
HowEver,
1) Saying he "is tired of your crap" is something most guys can be made to blurt out, means nothing.
2) IF he is still paying all your bills, inCluding medical bills, he clearly still likes you on some level.

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She's a beautiful blond women. He probably keeps her around as "arm candy". Or, like a trophy wife or something.
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I know , I just can't figure it out :(
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Dreamber, what I can figure out is that your free ride is about over.
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How old are you....30 years is a huge difference

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I'm 40 he's 70 and I'm using my daughter phone app
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30 YEARS OLDER??!!!! I'm sorry but that's insane! Okay back to the real question. He is deffinatley cheating.

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and I don't blame him....she's using him for his money, which is why he's finally seen the light and is trying to find someone else.
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I'm sorry Dreamber, but this relationship sounds like it was a bad idea from the beginning. If he gets Viagra and has been using it, and you know he's not using it on you, you can bet he's seeing other women. You should seriously start thinking of an exit strategy.

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That's what I keep telling myself too :)
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OKay, well so much for trying to help someone out. I'll never make this mistake again.
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I'm agreeing with you
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Hit the nail on the head again Former! I always read your answers if I see them.
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I think , he hasn't been doing nothing physically with me because he's been messing with prastitutes that are just wanting drug money and he doesn't want me to catch anything from them he may have caught.
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I'm sorry Dreamber, I didn't see what you had commented until after I had already posted my comment. I apologize.
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Thanks Jucks.
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You're welcome Former, have a good night.
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Dreamber, you're using the man, so why are you surprised that he's finally tiring of it and looking elsewhere? No one likes to feel used.....
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You've GOT to be kidding??? You 'own' a business together & he gives you an allowance? 1/2 of that business belongs to you (by law)...go get ALL of the cash out of the bank account & tell the old virgra-popping' fart to hit the road!

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First question is ask yourself why are you in the relationship. Are you in the relationship for the benefits or because you love him, but the benefits are an extra added that made you fall for him? Also, older men tend to reach a point in their life where they begin to feel their immortality. Meaning they start realizing that they won't be here forever. I don't know how old he is but rest assured those thoughts plague his mind. How do you win, and benefit? Don't indulge your time, effort or energy concerning yourself with the others, just keep doing what you are doing ans make sure you have EVERYTHING you desire in place. Men don't like games so don't waste your time or his be doing something to let him know how you feel about his actions....just ask him.....make your statement and be done with it. Appreciate that he is there for you and accept that as your blessing and accept it as that and nothing else.

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Love is love we dont know them so we really cant judge that.

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First of all I don't think age matters. That's your business, but do you really need to be asking this question? I think you know the answer. Why would he be giving these " trash women" money for nothing. He doesn't want to have sex in over a year, but Is taking Viagra? If you own a business together, get a lawyer and figure some things out before you confront him. PROTECT YOURSELF!!! End this relationship and be the woman in control. At this point he's controlling you with HIS money. He knows he can run around with other women because your dependent on him.

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Your right!!!
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You are so right kat!
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He's sounding more like a parent than a partner & not because of the age, more so, the allowance part. Or a sugar daddy... He's using that Viagra for someone... Sorry but you need to step away.

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I've given him ultimatums treating to drop him for good and he says he will but he will not say he loves me at all.
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Then he doesn't love you.. Sorry to be so blunt but most times it's better to just let it go. Give yourself a chance to find someone that will treat you right, good luck.
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I'm sure you are beautiful and I don't mean this to be rude but with him your looks have run out. He wants a trophy. He sounds like a pathetic man who uses money to keep women around him. I know you can't just assume things and make accusations, but, if it were me I would assume he is sleeping with these women. You are better than that. If you own the business together but don't work it sounds like your value to him is in your signature. If you split you still have half. Depend on no man, especially a sleazy loser. Time to pick yourself up and move on. Cut losses and start over. If you can make the business work together and still collect that's great and if not and you have to sell hopefully you will have enough to start your life again. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve, and you do deserve real love. Good luck :)

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Thank you , beautifully said !!
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You are welcome. Hope it helped.
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No u should not believe him!!!!!

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So you're basically using this guy financially to pay your bills & get a weekly allowance like a little kid, and you're surprised that he's finally tired of your crap, as you put it, and seeing other women????? 3 suggestions-see a lawyer about the business you own together, find a man your own age, and pay your own bills. You'll be a much happier woman, and people won't think what I'm thinking about the situation.......

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That's called being a *Kept Woman*.

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All men just want sex and you're not giving it to him so thats why hes "tired of your crap".

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Miss Dreamber - Thank you for not asking the really hard, tough questions!. This one just touches on about every fundamental relationship between woman and man. I believe the last important issue such as yours was what Adam said to Eve after his very first kiss.
Okay, lots of variables and assumptions have to be addressed here to come to a meaningful answer. I will deal with that by assuming you both are free spirits, you are very attractive to men and that Mr older guy is basically a Beta male, whether pushed there by aging or just his natural male personality.
Love and sexual activity are not the same. Love has basically four parts and some mean much more than others.
So much more to say. I may have to make a trilogy to express why I think you have a great situation if there is any interest. This 1,200 limit is a pain. They should at least have a counter.
See ya - bye mr bill

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A good lawyer will subcontract a private detective. It's time for you to make that call. I hope things work out for you

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You and other women apparently do the thing you get used to and like the bills paid and that why u stay.But if ur strong and independent you would have been already gone!!
Good Luck?

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Well it's not a 100% sure thing. You should plan your money and talk to him. Since he's older he should be more mature not less if you think he's cheating TALK. But if he won't talk to the other girls you think hes cheating on you with.

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