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After 10years in a relationship with 4 children's feelings are different it's like we don't talk to each other and everything why?

Why do people go thru these after years later.

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Because she's exhausted, pulled in a million different directions, has to remember every birthday, doctor's appointment, all school assignments, work obligations & often does all the housework.
Suggestion: take over a few chores (always unload dishwasher & take out trash- both without being asked) & clean some bathrooms (when they need it, not when you feel like doing it). Offer to give her a complete Saturday off (give her a gift card for a massage). Then... ask her out on a date. Take care of getting the babysitter (get cash for babysitter) make reservations & get tickets to the theater.

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Thanks for the tip, it's not about mr I'm talking about my mental brother and his poor wife. I feel bad for her but I just mind my own biz because I have my own family to worry about but the things that's happening oh my god.
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Perfect! But you know I would add the s word...
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Ok add some please...
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Ok, when I made that comment, all the other comments were not up. I take back the s word part in this situation!
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Lol!!!!!!
and some more Lol'ing!!!
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Kenny28451

You've probably become too familiar with each other. This happens in more relationships, I'm sure, than many wish to admit.

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True but this guy knows she has no other place to go, so why do guys do that? No siblings at all parents gone and grandparents gone she was the only child. Plus this guy knows she don't have a job because he's been supporting her for the past 10-11 years now they have 4 kids and I believe she's pregnant, I'm lost of words for this girl, so please it would be nicety have some feed back. Thanks!
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The problem is complicated. Perhaps counseling? Someone needs to take some kind of step, at least for the children's sake. I'm sorry I cannot offer anything more.
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Idk y b i ask myself the same question, we been together for basically 7 years in i feel like we dont talk and we make arrangements to have sex,,, but i knowi love him and i love my soon to be 2 kids and i just pray for the best for us,,,, but i wish it was more that we could do, to make us communicate more....

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Congrats on your new babieS to come. Thanks for the tip.
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Probably because everyone is either texting or watching TV. No time to talk.Start a family night......play a game.....what is the best thing that has happened to you today.....and what is the worst thing that happened?Everyone will share and talk, make sure you have some popcorn out, or reward everyone withan icecream party, get some toppings, a prize for the best looking sundae.. Guaranteed everyone will talk , relationships take work.... Try it , you will like it!!Good luck!!

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It does take slot of work and I think my bro should see it like that, he thinks he gives her everything by working and making them money. But the things she tells my wife is like she wants to do drugs to release her stress but it will only get worse so I'm speechless.
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Thanks for the tip =)
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I don't thinks it's fair to assume he is not sharing the responsibility. The same thing happen with after 12 years of marriage and in my situation she was seeing other people while I was working, and spending time
with my child. To answer the question however, you should definitely bring it to her attention and find the problem so you can work it out before it goes too far to recover

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True I gotta let my brother know what to do because he seems to hold all the burdens on his shoulders then it's gets really ugly. Thanks for the tip.
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No assumptions. It's an open forum to receive as many opinions as can be helpful. Mine is just one... just as everyone else has one.
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That's just wrong period. I'm assuming your a state trooper, or officer. Both of my parents were in law enforcement My mother had a steady schedule, but my dad was always on shift work. They stayed married, more for my brothers, sisters & I, & later more of convenience. My dad was always on the go, or sleeping. Shift work really took a toll on him, he retired after 38-39 years on the force, & died less than a year later-here's hoping ur not on shift work
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I agree no assumption it's just the girl does all her mother duties and that's a full time job already my brother thinks she's lazy and every bad word in the book man he needs to look good but then again I don't know what happens behind the doors. Everything my turn the tables
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I did work shift work, but never once did I let that interfere with family responsiblities even to the point I left shift work and began to teach. I admire your folks service my dad is still serving in him 47 year now working in the courtroom. So I grew up in it and I have lived it so don't get high and mighty with me. Don't tell me where I'm coming from cause you haven't been exactly where I've been. Only God may judge us. I apologize to he gentleman with question, but I do defend myself.
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It's called growing. Sometimes you grow together, sometimes you grow in different directions. What may have seemed important 10 years ago, might not matter anymore. The problems change, kids change everything in a relationship. Sometimes you become 2 ships passing in the night, it's hard to keep the romance going. Stress is a killer, stress at work, with the kids, running around all the time. It's rough, my wife & I try to get away a night here & there, just to reconnect. It's amazing just being together, talking without interruption, doing things that you did years ago. It's like recharging the batteries of our marriage, & recalling "why I fell in love" with you years ago

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Yeah your right the feelings are different but the love should change because he has kids. I told my brother don't let it all go down the drain because one day if he keeps telling her that she will just go and who knows she will succeed in her life without him. He always putting her down with not nice words.
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Aww, that sweet. Continue to woo her!
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