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I'm not happy in my marriage! I'm confused! I stay because I dont want to hurt him and he is gud to my kids. But I'm miserable! Wat do I do?

he is so good hearted but I'm bored in our marriage, he never wants to do anything and he won't allow me to go anywhere alone.. I dont wanna stay cuz of the stability, is it wrong for me to wanna be happy?

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See a counselor

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You aren't wrong with wanting happiness. Everyone deserves it and should find happiness in their life. Seek counseling and see if you can get some help.

Don't stay because of the children. They would be happier if you were. He might be a good provider and a good father, but the marriage is lacking any form of life. He is controlling you, by not allowing you to leave without him. He knows and fears you will leave.

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Read 1 Corinthians 13. That's Gods love. See if you are doing things His way. You may be depriving your husband of honor, or vice versa

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You have every right to be happy in your life. There is no point wasting your good golden years for someone who doesn't want to do fun and entertaining things. This world is too big to not enjoy yourselves in a marriage. He could be a good provider, but he may not be the one. Try to communicate with him, or just follow your heart.

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How long have you been married, & how old are your kids? I have been married almost 20 years, & have gone through the same thing several times. Pursue a hobby, join a gym, get a job (if you don't already have one). It is important to have social connections outside of your marriage. Also, you can plan for a fun night out together. Set up a sitter, make a reservation, &/or buy tickets to a movie or event you would both enjoy. If he won't respond, it's time for counseling. On more than one occasion, just bringing up the idea of going to a counselor to my husband has gotten him off his butt.

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We have been married 1 yr, my kids r 14, 9& 10! None of them r his! But I think I rushed into it to try n get over my first husband who I was with for 13 yrs
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the best answer is this. you need to express to him how you feel!
tell him you need to do something once in a while, maybe schedule a date night once a week. you may have to call in favors to watch the kids etc, but it needs to be done. but also take his feeling into mind? is he tired or sore from work? that kinda thing. marriage is an adventure for two, you cant do it alone and you cant do it for the couch either.

oh, and dont be surprised or confused if he is resistant at first. just make sure you express clearly and respectfully not only your feelings but where you are at, i.e. thinking of divorce.

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Before you make any decisions to leave you need to go to couples counseling. There may be something you aren't communicating about that can be fixed. Unless you are being abused you need to try everything to get back to a great place with him before you call it quits. Communication is everything and if he doesn't know that you feel this way, and you don't know why he's being this way, you owe it to yourself, your husband and your kids to tell him how you feel and then attend counseling. It might be a lost cause but you have to try first.

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For better or for worse. Seek counseling.

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It is not wrong for you to want to be happy. I understand, you want the best for your kids. First of all talk it over with your husband. Tell him how you feel. Communication is most important. Don't think about the what "if's." Focus on what is happening now in your life. Go on date nights every weekend. Make him feel secure that you won't leave him for another man.I hope I helped... Good luck! :]

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Everyone deserves happiness and should find it in their life. Seek counseling and do meditation it will help you to be calm in any situation..childrens should be the 1st priority,they may feel insecure in such situation.unhealthy relation can be the cause destroy children's life,try to understand what exect he want..then make a decision either in favour of relation nor separation,stay in same situation will increase the problems

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