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How do I deal with a drunk person all day. It's 8:09 am and my moms wasted. How should I spend the day. She's beyond controlling when she's

like this so leaving isn't an option. I hate drunks. and alcohol.

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Why can't you leave? Open the door and walk out...

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eliciamarie
my thoughts exactly
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super drunk lady stumbling after you possibly yelling?
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eliciamarie
shes drunk, just go when shes not looking, she probably wouldn't realize for a while
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eliciamarie
or better yet, have her follow you and get attention from the public, resulting in police, resulting in sentencing to self help seminars/meeting and hopefully the drinking will decrease or stop.
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if a person is a drunk, then no ammount of help is going tp get to them, unless they want to change
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Probably because that's my parent. And shes the manager of some apartments we have to live at so her outside trying to find me after an all nighter is not a good idea. I wish she smoked weed instead.
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Eliciamarie do you realize that will make her lose her job. Then where would we be? Can you answer this. Because I can't.
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Sometimes they hit rock bottom.
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If they let themselves. She can still hold her job though.
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eliciamarie
How she can keep her job if she is an alcoholic int he first place is beyond me. i really do feel for you. i know that it is hard to deal with, but sometimes all you can do is offer help. if/when she is sober maybe try talking to her about it (i also know this may not be possible because some people become aggressive or are in denial when you mention things live this). personally i think she should get help because the more she drinks, the greater chance of her loosing her job is anyway. :( We all find our coping mechanisms and i think you just have to find what works for you until you are able to move out of home, in the meanwhile just stay safe and out of her way when she is drinking. good luck :)
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Alcoholics are allowed to have jobs. They can't be drink at work and in general should learn to control their drinking.
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It is probably best to just keep your distance from her all day. Good luck.
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eliciamarie
yes, i am aware of this. however, an alcoholic is someone who abuses alcohol and is often very drunk. it is great if she is able to manage her work but i'm saying too often alcoholics are caught with high amounts of alcohol in their blood if a drug test were ever to arise and then she could be fired and also, if she were still drunk and turning up to work the next day, this could be noticed by other employees. this is why i said that i am surprised she has not be caught out yet. not that i want her to be caught, but it is a stick situation she has made for herself by drinking a lot.
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Yea they used to not have cameras in the office do a lot of days shed just stay in our house and drink and bearly work. Then people complains and they added cameras witch helped to stop the drinking during work. Which made it easier to come home knowing most likely she won't be drunk yet.
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sliceoflife
I feel for you D, my mom & step father both...mean.
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lock ur self in ur room or call a relative to get u

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I don't get why it was removed. I just stated my family don't like my mom.
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in your room, listening to music, and drawing, sleeping, reading, playing a vidiogame, ect. just make sure your door's locked, believe me, my dads the same way

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Makes me homicidal at times. Jk tho
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youre welcome, if shes always like this, what I did with my dad was stop careing completely, I dont love him at all; if he were to drop off the planet, all youd get from me would be "oh" :p
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Yea I just learned to not deal with it because it gets me into more problems trying to. So I do what I can to ignore her.
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If you want to leave and have a safe place to go you should. If you have younger siblings your concerned about it may be better to follow the advice about stayng in your room with the siblings at least until you can contact sober relatives to come and get you for the day. It is a very sad problem that needs a solution from a rational adult.

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My relatives don't care for us.
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That's just plain cold. I use to go to my friends house for the day. It's better. A drunk diners up eventually. They don't sell alcohol on Sunday's.
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They don't are you sure. What town or city are you in.
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I live way up north where the cold wind blows.
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Lucky. I think they sell on Sundays in Texas.
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That should be against the law. I do not drink and I'm an advanced adult. because I never wanted my own children to experience life with an alcoholic. Maybe you can do that for yourself. Try making something good from a bad situation.
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Yea i am not going to take up drinking. It's a depressant anyways.
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then close the door and lock it or you could do is go outside or just go too your neighbors house or building and then u wont see ur mom drunk just dont look

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Nah thanks for answering though.
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oh ok
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That's a tough situation to be in; I sympathize with you a lot. I know you don't want to leave her because you love and care about her. But please seek help for her. Whatever it takes, get her help. She will thank you for it one day. I would begin by calling one of her adult sober friends to discuss this problem with, or some other adult that you trust. I sincerely hope everything works out for you... you have a long road ahead of you.

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She don't have real friends just people who add to the problem. In my eyes at least
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I see... Well, you may have to disconnect from her and "act" like you don't care. I know her condition affects you badly... even to the point of you risking becoming co-dependent. The book "Co-dependent No More" would also be a good read for you.
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What's co dependent. If u mean drink one day I'm good. Alcoholism runs in the family.
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Co-dependent people usually are not users themselves but rather develop negative behaviors due to living with someone who is a user. Such examples include enabling the user, taking up for them when you shouldn't, making most of your focus, time, and energy on them. You can get a lot more info at Co-dependcy Anonymous. I placed a little bit about it below: Codependency (or codependence, co-narcissism or inverted narcissism) is unhealthy love and a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one's relationships and quality of life. It also often involves placing a lower priority on one's own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.[1] Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships.[1] Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, or control patterns.[1]Narcissists are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent.
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Is smoking weed co dependent.
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No, not necessarily, unless like you're doing it to meet someone else's demands or wishes. I personally would rather see someone high than sloppy drunk any day of the week.
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Me to. That's why we have an endocannabinoid system and not an alcohol system.
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Well make her go to sleep and you can do something in your room

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Yea I'm waiting for her to hopefully pass out.
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Stay in a separate area in the house with the door locked. Call friends, music, Internet, read, TV, study, games, text. Hope she leaves you alone and falls asleep. If she won't get help,you need to get it for yourself, how to cope. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

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How about call a relative? Great answer! +1
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How bout not a great answer because relatives are to smart to deal with a drunk like my mom. Not a happy one like some
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I have friends that grew up like this. No solution if the person (drunk) doesn't get / want help. You can't walk out, because leaving for the day doesn't change it, and you don't have anyplace to go. Friends, relatives, school, neighbors... They are aware, but they can't provide a solution to the offender that isn't interested or in denial. It looks clear and easy, but the only solution is learning how to deal and where to go in the midst of it.Most have no choice but to stay. It's not fair. People can drink and continue on with daily life, many do, in surprising numbers, with no problems. It's their business. This situation involves another, thats when it becomes a problem.
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I'm just gunna surround mysel with people that don't drink when I move out.
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Good move Dani, You are doing the right thing,, best you can do.
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I also hate drunks but I have no problem with alcohol as long as its not being abused. Is she always getting drunk???

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I don't like alcohol because he act of being drunk is sloppy and gross. Even with happy drunks.
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I know it's gross, but what you can do is cope with her. Tell her how you feel about her doing this. When someone is drunk, it means they have abused alcohol. If she always dies this and has the symptoms from alcohol abuse, get her to go to rehab.
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She is as stubborn as me.
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Your as stubborn as her
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Ha yea I'm as stubborn as her. It's pretty stubborn
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join Alanon fast. You need the support quickly. It is an organization for the families of alkies. There is also Alateen.

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Nah I'll be moving out in the next year or so.
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That is a good suggestion. I forgot about Alanon.
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