I understand fully. This happened to me. They shouldn't be able to control us. They know we love them and they use their power to keep us. You don't have to stay in the marriage. Love shouldn't be controlled and if you continue to give him the power, he will continue to control you. They will tell you anything and promise you anything, to keep you with them. You might leave and he will promise to change. If you go back, he will be different for a few months. Things always go back, to the way they were before. Get counseling for yourself and make decisions based on your needs.

That depends on whether or not the control becomes abusive, that should never be tolerated! If it is just a matter of controlling all aspects of the relationship, first you have to ask, was he like tis when I married him? if so what made you think he would change later? My husband like to be in control, he feels it is his job as a man and head nof his household and the bible agrees with him. Many years ago I was complaining to a friend who was much older and more experienced who had a controlling husband, about mine being controlling. She told me that the key was to allow him to think he controls everyting. Always make him think that everything is his idea. No matter if you agree with him or not always put a smile on your face and say "yes dear". Make him believe that he is just wonderful, stroke his ego and eventually he will soften and give you anything you want and do anything you want. I didn'/t believe nher, but I gave it a try. It is amazing what you can get a man to do when he feels limke it is the greatest thing in your eyes. You might also want to pray, not only that God would give nyou favor with your husband, but that you would have wisdom in placing obtainable expectations on him. Ask God mto give you patience with him, until he changes his ways.

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If you act like he is in "control" so he can give you anything you want isn't that considered manipulation? That isn't right either. You are right I do need to get God to help me with this.

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Try talking to him first because it's his life to. I bet he's just trying to protect you. Don't regret it good men are hard to find. Who's to say the next guy will be any better. Think long and hard. I hope this is what you really want.

You have only 1 life to live. Do you think you should spend it being unhappy? When you can answer this question.. you've found your answer.

First of all, talk to your husband. Explain that this is not what you bargained for in the marriage. Then, see if he is open to going to couples therapy. If not, you may have to make some hard decisions fast, especially before you start having children together.

You may not even need a man. Don't forget that either.

leave him and find the next best thing