Its really not about the other person, you got to figure out what it is about yourself that make you want to attach yourself to this person. when someone doesnt truly love you enough to love only you, it will make you question yourself and your worth. dont think that you need to be anything different or change anything about yourself. although maybe you should try and do some soul searching and figure out why you keep running back. in all honesty you need to drop that person and move on to bigger and better things, like personal freedom from self doubt. you cannot truly love someone else if you do not love yourself, and always know you deserve the best and dont settle for anything less then what you want in life.
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How do you NOT let go? Does this mean that after 5 years you still have feelings for this person? It's time to walk away, tell yourself you're too good for them, and start building up your self-esteem. Life is too precious and short--it's time for you to be happy.
^ they are right ^. Dump this person and never look back. Where is your self esteem? Your self worth? You are better than this. I can see this and I don't even know you. Why can't you? Move on with your life today and a year from now you will look back and ask yourself " why did I wait so long?"
1. Tell them it's over. This includes: erasing their number, facebook, twitter, e-mail, & all picture of you together. Also, turn off your phone off, computer, & iPod. 2. Invite your best friend over 3. Cry 4. Watch The Notebook 5. Eat Ben & Jerry's Chubby Hubby 6. Cry some more (it's okay) 7. Write him a really nasty letter. (don't send it.) 8. Watch a funny movie. (I.e The Hangover, Step Brothers) 9. Take a long hot bath. 10. Paint your nails. 11. Write a letter to someone else you love (mom, sister, brother, friend) & tell them how much you love and appreciate them. 12. Remember, life moves on.
I just got out of a 4 and a half year relationship myself. I understand what you are going through. This person was not only your significant other but a best friend to you. They will always have a special place in your heart; however, don't dwell on what used to be. The best thing you can do is to not think about it. No matter what you cannot change the past. It is what it is. You'll find someone else. My advice to you.. Surround yourself with friends. Go out and have fun! Don't dwell on your past relationship with this person because there is a reason they aren't going to be in your future.