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what should i do? Tonight me and my bf were watching fear factor and we had just gotten into an argument.. The contestant was really pretty

so i said aww shes cute! n my bf said yeah wish she was my girl friend he was serious nd he said it really mean.. I just looked at him and he said I'm just kidding gosh but he was still being mean... it really hurt me and I can't stop thinking about it cuz I know he was serious.. what should I do?

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Lmao all guys aren't like that.that was a major dick move.I'd feel like an ass if I said that to my gf even joking...

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Right on. Thank you for saying that. I was beginning to think everyone was crazy. That is wrong on so many levels. It's emotionally abusive and shouldn't be written off with "get over it all guys are like that". Thanks for speaking up for the decent guys!!
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Live and let live guys are like that

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Live? What?
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Um, he didn't just say a girl was pretty. He flat said he wished he had her instead because she was prettier. That is emotionally abusive. Not all guys down their women for fun.
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Ben idk the rest of your user name but what are you trying to say?
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As a guy, don't lump us all together with that D-bag.
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That's true not every guy sucks. It's true that most of the think before they speak but if he's doing it all the time it will get old quick.
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Tell him how you feel
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Get over it hunn. :) all guys are like that lol

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Um, he didn't just say a girl was pretty. He flat said he wished he had her instead because she was prettier. That is emotionally abusive. Not all guys down their women for fun.
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We also don't know both sides of the coin. We only heard her story.
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But I agree you shouldn't verbally abuse your girl friend.
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But I agree guys can be dumb at times. So they will sometimes say stupid things. Get Overr Itt! Lol
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Whatever
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ExaCtLY :) Lol
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I'm not
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I don't get it Lol are you a guy/girl? Lol
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Exactly what? Not all guys r like that. My ex was a true gentleman and would never say that. So you're wrong nd there is nothing to get used to
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If your a guy: well guess what lol that's exactly what my ex bf said :O && he broke up w/ me after car accident. Which is nott cool lol. If he woulda done it before accident than I really couldd caree less lol. But since he did it after brain injury and my emotions are all jacked up lol compared how i was b4. Ex: before I wouldn't take NO S H I T T frm ex bf. He would have to try to keep up w/ me
Nowadays I'm VERY sensitive, was willing to do ANYTHING for him so I could be w/ him. Lol. Would let him talk to me w/ NO respect
That's where ^uck3# up lol
That's a thing about when you have a "brain injury" that sucks alott....either way you'll end up emotionally different.....
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My ex was a very nicee gentlemen too lol. Until after brain injury he started acting all jacked up towards me. Idk what it was that made him change towards me, but I just take it for what it is and deal w/ it as best as I can do. Nothing more I can do riight? :)
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So your problem doesn't seem that much of a bigg deal. Just build a bridge and get over it :) trustt your issue could be alott worse...just take it for what it is. It's not like if he's ever gonna get w/ the chickk on the tv right? So why make a bigg deal out of it?! Lol
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Yea I know. Nd yea u obviously don't understand so not goin to explain it to u. . .
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I don'tt thinkk youu understandd how a guys mind works. Lol. He's w/ you for who you aree...Ex: personality wise
Not for how "cutee or hott" you may look. He probably liked the way her body is or whatever. But he don'tt know her like in personality wisee like he does w/ youu. :)
_________________You really need some level of confidence boost or something cuz your taking THIS-whatever happened between you two. A little over board :)
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Ignore all previous answers hun. No one deserves to be treated this way and not all guys are mean like that. I suggest you wait until tomorrow afternoon and ask to talk to him. Tell him that what he said was mean and hurtful. If he was in some kind if mood he feel bad for hurting you like that. If he blows it off or makes it sound like no big deal or repeats that statement, I would break it off. Telling you that he wishes he was with a prettier girl is emotional abuse. If you let him get away with treating you like that he will see it as you are weak willed. He will start to say meaner things just because he knows he can (I am speaking from experience, I had a boyfriend just like that. I blew off his first few cutting remarks and it got so bad that he would say horrible things about me in front of other people). Bottom line- confront him, tell him you will not be treated or talked to like that. If his apology seems sincere you can give him one more chance. If he does this again, you have to break up. If he doesn't act sorry this time, same thing, be done with him. Men who say cruel things just to hurt you with no remorse will only get worse with time. You don't deserve that, you deserve to feel special and pretty. And don't let this get you down. Remember, this is HIS problem. There is nothing wrong with you. Good luck!

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Sorry, I didn't see the post above mine, don't ignore that one because he was right on. And that was coming from a guy.
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Also, I just looked at your picture and you are gorgeous! Never doubt it hun :)
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Thank you
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Leave him. He sounds like a real jerk. Just cause he's a dude doesn't mean he can say rude things like that to you. There's really no excuse for it.
You deserve better.

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That is HORRIBLE to say even if he was joking! You are gorgeous! How dare he say that! Ask him about it and if he continues to be mean break up with him!

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Get used to it. My wife has come to realize that men are not very bright when it comes to speaking before thinking haha. I wouldn't take it to personally. More than likely he was joking and just didn't think before he said it, eventually he will start thinking first but it takes a while.

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You can't get used to your bf saying he would rather be with a different girl...
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I don't mean that I mean get used to him speaking before he thinks. Yeah that was pretty stupid to say.
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Yeahh... He was fine today thou so maybe he was just in one of those moods... *sigh*
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Well hopefully he won't be saying things to that extreme anymore if he knows how upset you are. But rest assured it won't be the last time he says something stupid. We all do make mistakes sometimes haha. Hopefully everything works out.
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Aha yeah.. He always says stupid stuff. Usually I jus ignore it.. But thank ya!
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No problem
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He wasn't serious. He was being a guy, and you are being a girl. I do the same thing to my girlfriend. If your picture is actually you, then don't worry, you are quite pretty.

For Funsies next time come up with a sarcastic response like "yeah I wish my girlfriend was too...". Guys speak sarcasm.

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Hmm... If u say so..I don't do good with guys that say stuff like that.. But yeah the picture is me? Aha why wouldn't it be...
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Tell him how you feel

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