I lost my grandmother to breast cancer when I was 10 and twenty years later I still miss her. Take them and all they gave you and carry it with you and honor their love for you. Who you are is difference love makes. Move forward in gratitude that somebody loved you, and you loved them in return. Honor that love by leading a good life.
Grief is a horrible thing. For some people it takes years to work through. The grief is holding you back from living your life. Visit their grave and say goodbye. From that moment forward march ahead. Begin to live your life and keep their memories safe in your heart.
I know letting go is every had, but what about you're happiness, your hopes, your dreams? You can't forget you! You are a unique self being, don't forget that. Life is hard, everyone knows it, but we gotta take it one day at a time, and appreciated every single second; create it into something precious. As far as I know, I'm quite sure whoever you're missing would've always wish the best for you, don't let that go to the gutter! Embrace happy moments that you have, and know that whatever happens, those who have past, are still looking down and out for you. :)
I know this is not the same, but my husband is leaving for 1 year. I have to decide now how will I handle this. First I started to have anxiety mixed with a little anger. Then I prayed that if it is gods will that he would give me that peace the bible speaks of, peace that surpasses understanding. I ask God to renew my mind, and to give me a vision of the plans He has for my family. I had a season where I felt like I was in a war, until I surrender all my fear a of the unknown and embraced today. You know were not promised tomorrow but we do have today. If your still here God isn't through with you, He has a special plan for you life. Sit down, talk to God. The bible says He hears every prayer and answers according to His will. He knows the big picture and takes care of those who believe in Him. The word if God says cast your cares upon Him for He cares for you. Give him your hurt and fear, He in his time will give u peace in return! I will pray for u!
It's alright to think about him or her but not all the time. Try to do things that might help you get though it maybe go for walks. Or if it's a family member maybe you can talk to another family member about him or her. I'm sorry for your lost!!