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Idnt understand why a 14 year old an a 18 year old cnt be togethor but a 21 year old an a 25 year old can and its the same age differencce

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A 14 year old and an 18 year old can't be together because a 14 year old is still a child. However, a 21 year old and a 25 year old can be together because both of them are adults. So the issue here is not the age difference, but the ages of the involved parties.

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good answer,well said!
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i still dnt understand tho because a 14 year old knows what shes doing so why does that matter some countries your considered a women at 14 just look at jewish people at 13 theyre considered women and men so yeah i dnt get it
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You don't get it because you're 14
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Yes but the 18 year old is considered an adult. And ok, I admit it, I am 14. And I do not think I would be ready. I mean I may jump into it if i was "in love" but it wont last. You're only 14 and you still have a lot to learn. If the person really loves you, they will wait till you're older.
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no i get it i just dnt think it makes since just because i wanna be in a relationship with a boy whos 18 dosent mean ill get pregnant it dosent mean ill drop out im a virgin i dnt really care for sex and he told me he can wait til im 18 to be with me but i wanna be with him
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Yea he's a lier. When you get older you'll be able answer your own question.
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Ok, I mean do what your heart tells you. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesnt. But in your case it sounds like a very healthy relationship that has good chances. Just make sure your parents are ok with it (very important because if they aren't I'm pretty sure they can press charges against him...) and don't let him pressure you into anything. Good luck!!! :)
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ok thanks :) and i wont im a strong smart girl i been through enough to know my rights and wrongs and the only reason i like him so much is beecause he stopped one of his friends from trying to rape me beat him up and drove me home and made sure he told my parents to make sure im ok :) now is it wrong to want him ?
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Wow what an awesome guy!!! Stop being selfish and give him to me!!!!! LoLoLoLoL jkjk
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Lol I Know nd nope u cnt have him hes all mine :p
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There are certain, very specific things that a 14 year old brain cannot understand. Logical principles as well as physical changes which people are only able to fully comprehend after a brain has developed its neural network to the point of adulthood are what separate the adult mind and body from both the adolescent and even, to some extent, the senile.

I find it more curious that the mentally infirm are able to hook up. It's the same principle. People in these states are easily taken advantage of, and the person who is being taken advantage of may never know or understand the facts of what is actually occurring.

Fair tidings.

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okkay the reason i really wanna be with him is because he stopped one of his friends from tryin raping me beat him up drove me home made sure i was okkay made sure my parents weere there for me and he said he can wait til im 18 now i want him now :(
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It's because here they consider 18 an adult and 14 a child, Eh I don't think age is a big problem, I actually have a few friends who are 14, or 15 that are with someone who is an "adult" it's working out fine for them. The only thing is you have to really know who your with, just make sure he's not worried about only sex. And don't let people control your relationship, if you love him, then don't worry about the age.. (=

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okkay the reason i really wanna be with him is because he stopped one of his friends from tryin raping me beat him up drove me home made sure i was okkay made sure my parents weere there for me and he said he can wait til im 18 now i want him now :(
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Wait, if one of his ""friends"" wanted to rape you, what makes him not want the same thing?? He could be easily trying to keep you innocence to himself, and he might rape, you, cux guys COMPETE FOR who gets LAID First!! That's how they are Don't trust him!
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averagejoe01, No...just no. She's 14 no need to scare her with that bullshit.

@lillythebest I'm sorry to hear that almost happened to you, luckily he was there for you to protect you. Talk to him about it then, tell him you want to be with him and your not worried about age. Then get him to meet your parents to see how sweet and protective he is, and i'm sure they won't mind his age
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And don't listen to all of these people in other answers saying your a kid, you see mature enough to make decisions so do whatever you think is right and goodluck(:
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i understand i've been through there but if that boy really loves u he will not let age stop him

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Im glad someone understands
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okkay the reason i really wanna be with him is because he stopped one of his friends from tryin raping me beat him up drove me home made sure i was okkay made sure my parents weere there for me and he said he can wait til im 18 now i want him now :(
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oh i understand he is a very caring person i think he will b a gd bf so go for it
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There's a much greater difference between a 14-year-old and an 18-year-old than there is between a 21-year-old and a 25-year-old. The very fact that you have to ask this question answers the question itself.

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technically its legal between us since in ny a 15 yr old an a 18 yr old can be togethor hes trurning 18 wedday nd im turning 15 friday
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You probably know the law in NY better than me, but, in my opinion, he's still too old for you, and though I don't know him, he may be taking advantage of you.
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i seriously doubt that because the reason why i like him
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okkay the reason i really wanna be with him is because he stopped one of his friends from tryin raping me beat him up drove me home made sure i was okkay made sure my parents weere there for me and he said he can wait til im 18 now i want him now :(
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Okay. Just remember: If you've got your whole life ahead of you, there's no reason to be in a hurry.
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14yrs and 10 yrs is the same age difference as well but do you see how weird that is, I hope you get my point

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Enjoy your life. You only get to live it once. Just make sure he'll continue to protect you and stop other guys from hurting you. Take care and be happy
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14 n 18 =18 will go to jail for being with a minor (child) ...21 n 25 = both are adults....it ok

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The 18 year old only wants your innocence...that's how guys are...their instinct is sex.

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Nah.
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the longer you live the more you learn .. so even so.. its Not the same...

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The human brain doesn't even finish developing until a person's in their mid-20's. Being 14, you might be a really smart girl, but physically your brain hasn't reached the level of maturity that his has. I dont mean it as an insult. But basically, people don't want you to be with him because he's more mature and knows more about the world and how to get what he wants out of it, and people are afraid he'll take advantage of you or get you into something you're not ready for. Those things may or may not be true, but it's definitely something that could happen.

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Because clearly, despite what the 14 year my believe, at 14 you are still a child!

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Its this thing called MATURITY.
A fourteen year old is a child and still quite immature despite what they like to think. Many eightteen year olds are not fully mature either, esp boys. Still the maturity difference between 14 and 18 is HUGE!!!! A child dating a budding adult is a bad situation, which is why its ILLEGAL at least in the US.

By 21, and certainly by 25, brains, bodies and emotions have, in general, matured to adult levels so each person is suppisedly making mature, well thought out, well informed adult decisions. Something all 14 year olds and many 18 year olds are incapable of.

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14 ur still a kid

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Would you date a ten year old it's the same age difference no because to you you consider a ten year old a kid well any mature and not some kind of baby lover would consider you a kid too sorry this eighteen year old is a freak for wanting to be with a fourteen year old and I bet your a virgin once your not you won't be that attractive to him, see some swine feel taking a girl's virginity is trophy to get and brag about and if your not a virgin at fourteen he just thinks your an easy piece. Eighteen year old do not want serious relationships with people under six or seventeen because they put restrictions on thier ability to experience things because the other is not old enough and fourteen year olds live in a completely different world than eighteen year olds.

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