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What do I do, who do I confront, and how do I get out?

I'm NOT telling my parents, as they don't know I'm on Facebook. So my first problem is that a friend of mine is convinced that he's in love with me. We're fourteen. We used to hang out all the time, but we've drifted apart, and now he thinks I hate him. There's a ball coming up in April for a program he and I are in. He posted last night that his friend is going to ask the girl he likes to the ball, what should he do? Well this can't possibly end well for me. I read through the comments, he said "it seems like she hates me even though I didn't do anything" and another one of my "friends" said that I hate everyone, I'm not worth his time, and I'm a b****. I commented, playing stupid, acting as though I was confused. I know what's going on, I just don't know who this friend of his is. Anyways, my "friend" replied rudely, saying that it wasn't my conversation and that I needed to go away. It was a public post. So now what?

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WOW!!!Another horrible life changing moment.......brought to you by facebook :) People are gonna think what they want to think, the more you concern yourself with what they think, the crappier your life will be.

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I just want him to get over me. He knows I like someone else. He knows I will never like him. Yet he's doing what I do and obsessing. He's slowly destroying himself, and I'm trying to avoid helping that, but I'm failing. I don't know what to do. I really don't care that my "friend" called me a b****. I really don't care much for her. I'm more concerned that this guy's never gonna realize that he doesn't have a chance.
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Call him on the phone and try and straighten this mess up. Don't text or Facebook. Things can get misconstrued by texting and Facebooking.

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straighten it out and have fun.

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what is your real name is facebook maybe i help your but the about comments are good for you to accept it and to do try it .don,t wast your time it is the last time to understand

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Sounds like the guy's friend who was badmouthing you was just trying to comfort him. Guys have emotions just like the rest of us, and school is the time to learn how to deal with them. Be cool and they'll come around eventually.

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You need to make it clear to him that you don't hate him, but you don't return his feelings and he needs to move on. It's not an easy thing to do, but its best for both of you. If he finally understands that there is no chance, he'll accept it and move on and leave you alone.

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My friend had a guy texting her telling her he is head over heels in love and always has been. He knew she had a bf. He started saying "he's fat, he's ugly, he doesn't deserve you." he barely even knew my friend but hed convinced himself he was in love with this image he'd made in his mind for her. This perfect image. She was rightfully pissed. It's not right to so that. Do what she did-it worked out pretty well: meet in person with this guyfriend. Tell him you are so sorry but it's someone else that holds your attention. Tell him you don't hate him and you miss being his friend, but that friends is all youll ever be. And again, you are very sorry. As for your rude friend, talk to her as well. Ask why she calld u that and is being so rude, why she's so upset. Before you do all this make sure to be 100% positive he is referring to you or you'll end up feeling incredibly stupid. Good luck!!

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I think she should just say,"Beat it loser!!!". Sometimes people need a rude awakening. Seriously.
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Oh my God, he is such a loser.... I don't know what I was thinking when I started talking to him.
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I dunno, I wouldnt say that cuz I mean it's sweet that he likes (theoretically) an I wouldn't wanna be rude after he put himself out there. On thing about the situation with my friend was we could respect the guy for expressing how he feels. The whining and chasing-not so much. Just be nice but firm.
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aww, girl, I'm the same way. sucks, don't it? well, here's some advice... don't worry about what someone said about you. i'm sure you're beautiful in your own way. So what if it doesn't work out? to make his stop with his crap, confront him. when my boyfriend graduated, leaving me stuck in jr.high, he said he was free from what was slowing him down. i asked him what it was, he said it didn't matter.then i saw him at wal-mart... with my (ex) best friend. i yelled at them for it and his responce was: "i got tired of you." WOW. yeah. well,at least i know why he left. i truly hope this helps you, boo.

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