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My husband found old girlfriend on face book. Few months ago talks every day to her now he's going to fly out to see her I'm upset

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I think he is wrong to do that. Ask him how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. Total BS

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Maybe she could ram the shoe up his ___ and ask him how it feels.

Sorry. Something about this just totally hacked me off.
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Agreed. 100%
And yes, that is exactly where that shoe belongs
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This isn't good. You need to tell him he can't go see her. It's weird and wrong. He's cheating on you. You need to tell him to stay with you.

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i agree.!!
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As well you should be! Do you have kids?

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You have every right to feel as you do. Your husband is playing with fire and everyone in the family is likely to get burned. His use of family resources to visit an old girlfriend is more than you should be asked to bear. If there was ever a time for an an ultimatum, this is it.

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I have always thought that married people give up dating. I just don't get this one. Sad for the wife..
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You have a right to be. Sorry.

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I agree with others. It is completely wrong for him to go. It could not be more wrong. If he still wants to go after voicing your opinion, GO WITH HIM. Even if it is hard for you to go, GO!

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Go with him, u have a ryte to know who she is.

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Yes You should go with him.
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I agree with bbot33 it's wired and wrong!!!!

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you should talk 2 him n try 2 doit bak 2 him..(:

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you should be upset... i suggest if he must go SEE her and you dont have any children to leave behind i would tell him that you are going too.. this should open up other convos and he insist you stay then you may want to look further into as the other prior to my opinion answered

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if shes his ex girlfriend he wouldnt want to go see her when hes married to you unless something was going on..i dont think he just found her on fb, hes probably been talking to her for a while. you have a right to be scared..tell him.

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Dont let this happen! I'm serious! This happened to my sister, and she ended up in divorce. I cannot stress to you how serious this is. I would confront him and ask what his motives are as well as speaking to the woman from his past and explaining to both of them that this just isnt going to happen. He has a responsibility to you as his wife to make sure that your relationship with him is healthy and happy. Maybe you should ask him if his marriage means as much to him as this trip out to see his old girlfriend.But honestly, you can't live your life looking over your shoulder all the time to watch out for old girlfriends lurking about. He has to be trustworthy. You can't always be worried about where he is and what he's up to. Personally I think, if he follows through with this plan , I can't see him being committed in this partnership. I'm sorry your going through this. You'll be in my prayers.

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I would go with him and get her and him in check

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I think i had given u a bad idea.i am sorry.only way is just don't let him go.Make him believe in one true love.

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You're in ur 50s? Where is the trust by now? I'm not saying he's right or wrong, but the question is do u trust him?

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Trust my arse. Trustworthy people don't rekindle old flames on fb and then fly out to dump fuel on the fire.

Trust is one thing. Throwing your husband to the wolves is another.
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Seriously? Flying off to meet an old girlfriend? And you're questioning trust? Whew.....he should have married a girl like you! That isn't trust my friend.......that's just plain nuts.
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This is a big giant huge red flag. When you haven't seen someone fir a long time, you forget the bad times & remember the good times. Now they are going to be alone? And you are talking trust? I think you have taken too much acid.
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This is bad news!! Nothing good is going to come from this! Why is he wanting to go see her? If they are old friends, they could just catch up over the phone. Do not let him do this. You should talk to him about how you feel about this. If he still insists on going, I'd take serious consideration into packing up his things. You don't deserve this, and I'm sure you can tell where it's going. Give him the chance to fix this mistake before it happens. If it gets any worse than this, then leave. You don't deserve feeling hurt over his mistakes. Good luck to you.

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One word is insane! U & him - he to go and u to even consider thinking it could be right
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We think the same on this one .
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Agreed.
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Sorry but that would be the end of face-book. He should of looked for her years ago before he married you.

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WHAT!?!?!?!?!

Worst. Plan. Ever.

You have every reason to whack him in the head with the largest cast iron fry pan in your arsenal.

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Haha! Well said
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Love it!

One problem, I want to know if there is kids involved?
It usually takes 2 to make a marriage fail. We get complacent and forget to try and make the ones we love feel good.
A husband needs to feel sexy, just as a wife does and flirting with an old GF/BF can make one feel alive.
These folks need a couples get away and counseling. And he needs a swift kick or a whack with said frying pan.
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Oh, I totally get what you're saying, freudianmamma. I've got six kids. "us" time is a practically non existent thing. And when we do manage to squeeze some in, it's amazing how much it brings us back together.

And it's amazing how a mans sense if wanting to be impressive and do something for the girl who has his heart relates as much to the kinds of things she does for him as it did way back when.

The fire has to be stoked by both.

But nobody with their heads still on their shoulders would think this was a great way to rekindle the fires in his marriage.

I guess I just assumed that with a bonehead move like this one, were way past the point of fire stoking and right on into the area of giant bucket of icy cold water.
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Be upset very upset and you have every right to be . It's an old girlfriend leave her in the past only bad things can happen with this .

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Why? If this were totally innocent he'd do it right in front of you. This is so disrespectful to you and your marriage. Your husband needs to know that you're not going to sit around waiting for him to come back from his little "meeting". Married people DO NOT fly to see an X-girl without something else in mind. I'd pack the jerk's bags....He shouldn't be chatting with her on Facebook either. Bless you.... I hope you're ok.

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I'm sorry, but what is his problem? That is just plain wrong and he should understand that.

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As a guy, I must say, that a man that respects you would not do something that has the appearance of impropriety. If he has some good reason to go meet her, he would take you or have her come to you. If he makes this trip, I would make a trip... to a lawyer.

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This smells of adultery. I would tell her to leave him. As in get out of the already strained relationship.
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If they have kids she should try to get counseling first. Kids don't need to be drug through a divorce. That poor family.
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Today is the day to stand up & be strong & look out for yourself begin taking back your self respect. You deserve to be treated with respect & dignity, please believe it. Believe in yourself & know that you are worth it. How many years has this man taken advantage of your love & you haveet him because you dont believe you deserve better treatment. This is not new, I have a feeling that this is not the first time that he's done whatever he feels like without considering your feelings. We teach people how to treat us & he's learnt from you that it's acceptable behavior. Time to put your foot down & demand what you want out of this marriage, show him that you're taking back your life & starting to build back your self esteem. If you don't get what you want, need, deserve out of this relationship then it's time to move on & give someone's the chance to treat you like the beautiful person that you are. He is out there, just open the door & your heart & let it happen. It's a new day, own it, grab it & don't look back. I wish you all the best.

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