You have every right to feel as you do. Your husband is playing with fire and everyone in the family is likely to get burned. His use of family resources to visit an old girlfriend is more than you should be asked to bear. If there was ever a time for an an ultimatum, this is it.
you should be upset... i suggest if he must go SEE her and you dont have any children to leave behind i would tell him that you are going too.. this should open up other convos and he insist you stay then you may want to look further into as the other prior to my opinion answered
if shes his ex girlfriend he wouldnt want to go see her when hes married to you unless something was going on..i dont think he just found her on fb, hes probably been talking to her for a while. you have a right to be scared..tell him.
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Last edited at 9:47PM on 4/5/2011
Dont let this happen! I'm serious! This happened to my sister, and she ended up in divorce. I cannot stress to you how serious this is. I would confront him and ask what his motives are as well as speaking to the woman from his past and explaining to both of them that this just isnt going to happen. He has a responsibility to you as his wife to make sure that your relationship with him is healthy and happy. Maybe you should ask him if his marriage means as much to him as this trip out to see his old girlfriend.But honestly, you can't live your life looking over your shoulder all the time to watch out for old girlfriends lurking about. He has to be trustworthy. You can't always be worried about where he is and what he's up to. Personally I think, if he follows through with this plan , I can't see him being committed in this partnership. I'm sorry your going through this. You'll be in my prayers.
This is bad news!! Nothing good is going to come from this! Why is he wanting to go see her? If they are old friends, they could just catch up over the phone. Do not let him do this. You should talk to him about how you feel about this. If he still insists on going, I'd take serious consideration into packing up his things. You don't deserve this, and I'm sure you can tell where it's going. Give him the chance to fix this mistake before it happens. If it gets any worse than this, then leave. You don't deserve feeling hurt over his mistakes. Good luck to you.
Why? If this were totally innocent he'd do it right in front of you. This is so disrespectful to you and your marriage. Your husband needs to know that you're not going to sit around waiting for him to come back from his little "meeting". Married people DO NOT fly to see an X-girl without something else in mind. I'd pack the jerk's bags....He shouldn't be chatting with her on Facebook either. Bless you.... I hope you're ok.
As a guy, I must say, that a man that respects you would not do something that has the appearance of impropriety. If he has some good reason to go meet her, he would take you or have her come to you. If he makes this trip, I would make a trip... to a lawyer.
Today is the day to stand up & be strong & look out for yourself begin taking back your self respect. You deserve to be treated with respect & dignity, please believe it. Believe in yourself & know that you are worth it. How many years has this man taken advantage of your love & you haveet him because you dont believe you deserve better treatment. This is not new, I have a feeling that this is not the first time that he's done whatever he feels like without considering your feelings. We teach people how to treat us & he's learnt from you that it's acceptable behavior. Time to put your foot down & demand what you want out of this marriage, show him that you're taking back your life & starting to build back your self esteem. If you don't get what you want, need, deserve out of this relationship then it's time to move on & give someone's the chance to treat you like the beautiful person that you are. He is out there, just open the door & your heart & let it happen. It's a new day, own it, grab it & don't look back. I wish you all the best.