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Asking the girl i like to marry me after we get our degrees and lived together for a year. im 20-21 and she is 18/19. Is this good?

To me this sounds reasonable. Although i mean she lives in Cali and i live in Texas. But i know that i see myself with her. Its going to be a year that we have been online dating but within two years i am determined to move out there. Unless everything takes a turn for the worse but i have a feeling that she is my soul mate. What do you guys/gals think?

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I'm 18 and I'm getting married in 9 days. Don't listen to people who say your "too young". It's your life and your decision. if you love her and your ready to commit to a marriage then go ahead. There will be numerous people who don't agree with it simply because of your age. But like I said, it's your decision. Good luck to you both! Oh and California is way better then Texas. Just sayin', I live here and I plan on moving to Cali after my fiancée is done with Army training(:

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Aw congrats! I agree with you! And I hope your marriage is filled with joy and love;):)
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Awe! Thank you so much! :)
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I wish you the best Happy Life! Thank you for your post!
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Thank you, I wish you the best too!
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Congratulations on your marriage! And I also live in Texas :-)
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Thank you! and that's awesome! (:
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You're welcome
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if you are willing to move down there for her then i would say you are a very good man. go down there for a visit and she what you think. if your feelings don't change than go for it. and if you can't go down there for a visit and you feel in your heart you love her then do it.

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I try to be. She had a bad past with guys but you know i just want to make her life full of smiles and joy. Thats all i want for her to be is happy!
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:) thats great.
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Do it. Too cute

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are you nuts? your both to ding young go out and live a little first

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I got married when I was 20 :-) I'm 24 now, still living and having a great life with my husband and 2 daughters. Marriage doesn't necessarily mean that you won't be able to have any fun anymore..
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AMEN to Erika!(:
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Thank you :-)
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your asking random people. u know i could be ur girl and now i know... haha

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lol she does not even know about this.. or at least i dont think so..:/ either way i know that she wont find out. :P
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yeah but still, why would u ask a random website with random people?
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To get there opinion. Strangers opinions are way different then friends because they can be rude and straight forward unlike friends
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haha... so ur seriously asking her now?
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lol no not now.. i just wanted to see what strangers would think. But its a process.. ;/
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Go and visit 1st, then you'll have the answer to your question.

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Its okay, If you feel as if you can't live without her, or your perfect girl, then you should go down there and ask her to marry her. She's a very lucky women to have you!

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Wait about a month if things are still good ask her, hope every thing turns out good and it reasonable !

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Online dating....? If you haven't meet her yet... Then no that's just queer

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Online dating is dangerous u don't know who you are really talking to and you dont know what they are capable of

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At least find out who she really is before you marry her
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We talk every night on skype and we sleep with each other. I mean i seen her mother father and sister and her house. I met most of her friends so i mean i know her by what i see but i know that once i go out there to meet in person.. it would be so much better. :D
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As long as that is what both of you want then go for it :-)

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Go visit her before you make up your mind-make it SEVERAL visits of varying length. We can be very different in person than the persona we project on line. We tend to hide our faults from others when we're on line. You have PLENTY of time after you 2 meet to think about the marriage issue. I really like that you want to hold off on marriage til AFTER you 2 get your degrees-its a rough world economically and I don't think a lot of younger people know how bad it is out here cos they've always lived at home & never HAD to work. This way the 2 of you won't be stuck in dead end jobs & fighting over $$$ like so many do. You sound like a good, sensible man, the kind of man I'd like for a son in law. BUT-don't burn your bridges behind you. Make sure by visits that you guys think as well together & get along as well in person as you do on line, on VOP, or by video. Here's wishing you the best of luck!

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We talk every night on Skype. It even got to the point we we leave it on and sleep with each other. We got so used to it that the days we dont have it on.. it feels weird
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awww-that's so sweet! But I want it to be that way for you, those same feelings, when you're together face to face! I so wish the best for the 2 of you, but again-please visit her several times. You need that face to face time.
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That is really sweet to sleep with skype on. I've never heard of anyone doing that. Isn't technology something?
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I say as long as you both love each other and trust each other.... Go for it!!! Long distance relationships really can work out contrary to what most believe!! You say she's your soul mate and apparently you only get one of those a life time so yeah.... Go marry your girl!!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH!!!!!! :}

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Your cute
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Ummm thnx! Lol!!!! Have a good one
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do it its what the heart wants <3 and move to cali

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I think you should meet her first then make up your mind......18 is kinda young I hope you guys are ready!!!! Much luck is sent your way!!!!!

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My goal is to meet her and her family before "2012" Then like the next year in 2013 to do like 2 visits and such. I mean we talk on Skype everyday and we sleep with each other on skype. I mean she has just stolen my heart.. :D
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All of us would like a romantic man like this, wouldn't we, LUVITT?
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Two visits the whole year in 2013? That seems low.
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Ok, first online never seen each other in person ummm.... How about meeting the girl and dating her in PERSON before knowing if you really like her!

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