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What can I do if my dad hits me?

Im Turning 14 soon and me and my dad have always been fighting even since I was real little like a toddler he always gets in my face and spits and slaps me even for something little like taking his trtuck key to listen to music and get away from him and I have a problem in school like a disorder thing idk wats wrong with me but i hang out with a bunch of people but I just cant go to school so i am homeschooled i am very nervous all the time like twitching and i have anxiety and my mom is not in a position where she can help either she has also been abused by him and so has my brother when he was little but hes 19 now and they get along good and my brother knows how he is but he takes up for my dad instead and my brother has hit me taking up for my dad one of the big fights me and my (so called father), have gotten into i broke his ribs, the police doesnt do any good because they dont like me (my dad is friends with them) =[ and everyone basically but my mom hates me and she is not crazy her mom is she is living with and she just got out of mental ward at the hospital for what they call evaluation when her mom locked up up and theres nothing wrong with my mom to begin with.

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i would call the cops on him and i hope he get put in jail for a long time

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Thank you Im really shocked at all the Replies I got but Hes friends with a bunch of the cops and one cop I know alot who has actually sided with my dad Just because he doesnt like me has cuffed me and thrown me on the Ground and hit me with his night-stick before and threw me in his cop car and took me to Jail but in the end my dad Got me out then took me home and about a week later hes back top abusing me (this is when I was like 11) :l I dont think I can really do anything else But I am Glad that I have people around the world experiencing the same thing and has taken With my side (over-internet) I really appreciate It thank you :')
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D.S.S or cops

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The cops dont like me like I said and they have sided with my dad basically I know a bunch of them that would come to my house and one in particular if they ever get a call he comes out here in a hurry just because he doesnt like me and the cop himself has abbused me he threw me on the concrete at my school and I have a disorder where I kinda dont listen I wish I didnt have It and im not even exactly sure what it is either. It just makes me really pisted off sometime i know tht and Idk wat to do but Thank you for replying Im glad I have other ppl around the world siding with me besides my mom :')
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the cops cant not like anyone, you have to tell the cops your side of the story, go directly to the chief in command.
Cops are people too.
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I would try the police/: im really sorry & hope you're okay/:

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Thank you so much :') the cops basically hate me tho and they have abused me theirself they on my dads side :( but thank you and I reallyyyy appreciate it :)
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the cops cant not like anyone, you have to tell the cops your side of the story, go directly to the chief in command.
Cops are people too.
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Ohh Hell No!! Thats Abuse!
Call The Cops

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Cops basically hate me they have threw me on the ground at my school because I didnt want to go in and cuffed me and took me to jail and I have like a disorder idk its complicated but my nerves got to hell and back if im near a school and i have all kinds of flashbacks D: everybody almost where I live hates me.. atleast I have some people replying on here trying to help me :')
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the cops cant not like anyone, you have to tell the cops your side of the story, go directly to the chief in command.
Cops are people too.
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spikeOo0

I'm sorry I will pray for you

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Thank you so much :D thank you thank you thank you :) :DD
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Cops or run away

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if he runs away how will he get food? he needs a roof under his head, d.s.s. will do that.
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I have considered running away but i need to finish homeschool and ill have to go through hell for the last year of highschool (when i get to it a couple years from now) and get a job and save up money and i have alot to learn also before i can even consider going anywhere.
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If you feel that you are threatened by your dad’s behavior of hitting you, then you need to seek help. I don’t think you need to be fighting with your dad at this age. Talk to a relative you trust to express this.

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I dont really trust any of my relatives much their kind of two faced ya' know? and my grandma on my dads side hell no my grand ma on my moms side hell no my mom already knows how he is but she cant really do anything and she has been abused by him he almost killed her before i was born from what she says and he was hearing voices and talking to hisself and the only way she got him off of her was she cracked a boom over his head..
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Cops or fight back

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Im strong but If I hit him again he already has a warrant he can sign on me within a year and have me locked up and the cops hate me.. :'( hes on the cops side they just wont beleive me at all because i have other problems where i have ran away for like 2 days and came back because of no food and freezing cold then he beat me.
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80 dude, you should go to the police station and tell them up front what happened, because trust me, with the legal system nowadays, justice is always served to the deserving people
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Ask him why do you hate me and it probably has to do with his childhood

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Call the cops hun.
Really sorry, you don't deserve that.

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Thank you :) I cant trust the cops though they hate me its a long story but this has been going on for years and he has abused my mom and older brother even before I was born. and I have been locked up and once he cut me a little with a knife but he denies it to everybody. if i havent got away he would have stabbed me im sure. and i dont have any physical scars (anymore) but i do have emotional scars D': ....... thanks :') everybody that has trying to help me thank you :;)
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Try your grandparents or maybe get a friend?
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stalkermakeyouscream

call the cops or hit your dad back

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Cops wont help ive tried to before the cops theirself have abused me and through me on the ground and have tore my clothes dragging me into the school (the dare officer) and yeah .. everybody pretty much hates me. i dont deserve this life :'(
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the cops cant not like anyone, you have to tell the cops your side of the story, go directly to the chief in command.
Cops are people too.
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TwilightGirl

The police... Or you can hit him back... Harder

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Cops wont help ive tried to before the cops theirself have abused me and through me on the ground and have tore my clothes dragging me into the school (the dare officer) and yeah .. everybody pretty much hates me. i dont deserve this life :'(
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the cops cant not like anyone, you have to tell the cops your side of the story, go directly to the chief in command.
Cops are people too.
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WTF! Thats abuse! :O I am so sorry... :'( Just call the cops ASAP! I hope he gets arrested.

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I hope he does too but where will i live i dont want a foster home. :/ ugh i hate my life everybody hates me to i know that lives around me except my mom.
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Wow. I feel so bad! :'( In my opinion..just live in a foster home! Its better then being abused all the time. I am sorry to say it but its true!
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Wow. I'm so sorry. That terrible. Are there bruises? Anything? You could call police. Is there a neighbor you could talk to You could also tell your Dad enough is enough. Tell him you will call police if he won't stop.

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My neighbor John but he wouldnt let my best friend come over here anymore my dad has done this in front of my best friend peyton aka (pman) but i consider him my brother, anyways he wouldnt let me talk to him anymore hes like the strict type
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BigDawg, I'm so sorry. Honey you have to what ever it takes to make it stop. Get on your hands and knees and cry out to God to help. This is a problem that only God himself can handle. Since your home schooled you seems like you are some what isolated. Anyway, God will help you. If you can, go online and find Joyce Meyer Ministries. Joyce, was horriblly abused as a child as well. I think you can and will find encouragement on this web site. Please let all of us know what your doing. I'll pray for you as well. Also, I know this will be hard but say the following "May the love of Jesus Christ surround my Dad, mom and brother. Help them to know what they are doing is wrong. Give me the strength to deal with this, and the wisdom to know what to do. If you have access to a bible read the book of John. I'm pulling for your Big Dawg.
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Hey Big Dawg0145, You could call social services. You would be stuck in a foster home but you would be away from the abuse. If you don't want to do that then your only choice (since you said the police don't help) is to walk on egg shells. Keep a perfect room, don't leave anything laying around, when your parents ask you to do something...just do it. Not sure how old you are..sounds like you a Junior? What this disorder thing? Are getting help for it? Can you go to trade school? Are your grades good enough to go to college? Start now making a game plan. What ever you do...be respectful....bid your time...and GET out when your done with school. Most of all STAY OUT OF TROUBLE!!!!
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call child protected sevice

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Thanks, but They really dont do any good i have already done that so my dad can basically beat me up like a rag-doll unless i fight back but then he calls the cops and acts all innocent then i get locked up i swear i want to kill him hes the lowest of the low.
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idk what to say.. now... sorry
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Your soon to be 14,your Dad hits you,go can not go to police cause he is friends with them,you can not go to school office cause your home schooled,and your Mom or Grandma or family can not help either.Looks like you have closed all doors for a answer.Well all but one door which is wide open,your online you have access to it some how your here on Ask.Do engine search on CPS,send a email report everything you just told us,believe me something will change.Good Luck,

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Thanks but they do no good i have done that before it wasnt helping at all i was in it for like 6 months and It was a hard time getting out of it. So it's basically everyone vs. me and my mom. :/ But thanks at least And i still cant beleive how many replies I got from people trying to help me.
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If I were you, I would go live in the Convenant House. They give you a hot meal and a place to sleep.

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call the police and stay out of his way.......stay as far as possible and do not be somewhere where you and him is alone...be sure to be around others because if he can abuse you then he can carry it further!

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I'm so sorry. You can't even go to the police?? If you had a very close friend maybe they'd let you stay, if not my only option is runaway and call/child protective services. Don't let him hit you, if he does, threaten him with his worse fear or, if he does go to you neighbors, you do not deserve this!!!

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i was in the same pickle except no brother and my dad was a drunk.do what i did go to his bathroom after hes passed out unscrew the light bulb and leave the plunger in the toilet and if you know his routine then you probably know about what time he goes to take that dump then wait for the holler and get the hell out of dodge and call who you got to call

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run to a family members house that u trust and lives near by or a friend or neighbor u trust and CALL THE POLICE!!!!! if hes hitting u that child abuse which is highly against the law.

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Do you have a camera?If you do try to get him on it then call the police or child service.

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What you want to do first is get a gun then learn how to shoot, after if he ever tries to hit you point the gun at him and say "I'm not afraid of you anymore" and if he does try to hit you shoot him.

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uhh yeah if he wants to end up in jail....which i know i dont
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im in the exact same situation as u except im a girl so its more than abuse. but other than that same situation completely.

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my dad done this and now I can't move my neck at all and I have a brace he nearly chocked me to death so I punched him you gotta fight back because that's what will make you look weak I know how this feels so I wish all the best xxxxx

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MY dad beats me and my brother I hit him back the cops yelled at me threaten me and did nothing the cop said it's okay for him to beat me with a broom or smack me upside the head or send me flying he said it's disaplen how do I get help the cops said I go to juvy if they come back.

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ok I've been getting beat by my "dad" since I was 5 once he threw me off my bunk bed I've had been beat with coat hangers 2 by 4s sticks he's even threatened to kill me he also pointed a loaded gun at my mom when I was 13 he's has always been on drugs we me and my mom have had him in jail 3-4 times but he always gets out this time my dad actually changed till about now . now im 16 and still can't do anything about it even when I've tried he's always a better fighter then me but ... DONT CONFRONT YOUR DAD IT WILL ONLY MAKE THINGS 10 TIMES WORSE AND HE'LL GET MAD

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