I teach workshops to women about this very subject. I would tell you first off, get comfortable with the word " no"! Stop feeling obligated to " be nice" and take on things you rely don't want to do. 2. Stop worrying about what people will think of you 3. Get rid of the word " perfect" because it doesn't exist. 4. Be militant about finding time for yourself to do what you want. Good luck.
Do some Soul Searching...if you can go somewhere peaceful for a while and really dig deep down inside yourself...you just might find the answer...If you are religious then maybe go to a retreat, talk to Pastors
You must take time for yourself wargin. Can you get away for a walk, drive, bike ride etc on your own? I used to sit in the freaking bathroom with a book and my smokes years ago when I needed time to myself, I also used to go to bed early with a book- or I'd stay awake late into the night when the rest of the house was asleep. MAKE time for yourself
Go to a book store and check out some self help books! They help you find your own truth. Also, if you don't already learn how to mediate. It's very easy just focus on your breathing to quite your mind and connect yourself! Also try journaling, write whatever you want... How your day was, things YOU are thankful for, goals, fav memories, if you could have magical powers what they would be...anything! Haha hope this helps & Goodluck!
I had an abusive husband and somewhere in our marriage I lost the person I was. When he passed away it took me awhile to find me again. It's a slow process but you can do it. Find time for yourself. Find time for friends. Remember the things you used to love and the things that made you happy and go back to them. Not going to happen overnight but it will happen. The fact your asking for help is a good start. You've gotten some good advice here. Listen to them because they came from people who care.