Is it considered cheating to pay for services that your wife or girlfriend will not perform?
Do you really have to ask this, stop and think for a second.
Yes, just because she won't perform the services, it will still be considered cheating. Apparently you don't feel confident in doing it either, she will be hurt if she finds out.
If you're hiring a maid service to clean your house, no. If it's anything sexual, then yes.
Yes it is. If you feel okay about doing that then perhaps the real question should be..... Do you love her? And if that is the case then you are the only one who can answer that. Good luck!
How will you feel if she pays someone to perform a service you won't? Relieved? Threatened? Cheated on?
Really? I wonder what she doesn't get that she might consider paying for.
Hmmm how about this ask her if its cheating. If she says she's fine with it go for it.
Of course it is if it's behind her back. If you permission, then no. In the eyes of the religious right, it is regardless though