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My son is 18 and he is always being disrespectful to me what do i do he doesnt listen to me

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Don't kick your son out on the street. Just listen to him and why he is being the way he is. Talk it out. And understand your son so he can understand you. just don't listen to everyone else here saying " he's 18 kick him out " you can still help him be a good person don't set him out into the world as a disrespectful kid.

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I always thought that 18 was the magic number when you can kick your kid out of the house.

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I was out at 17. I lived alone with my little sis for three years before that. I guess lots of teens are really babied these days. I don't know what happened to raising capable children. My kids, nephews and nieces are oddballs because they can actually function without adults present.
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I agree.
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Tell him he has a week to either set up a place to stay; or he can change his attitude immediately.

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18 years old. Time for him to move out there are not things you can do to make him to respect you. He have his own mind and responsibility.

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Kick him out....... AHHH that looks way too much like something my dad would say D:.... I'm disgusted by myself ugh ugh ewe ugh...

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Don't feel bad. I just renewed my license and in the picture, I look like my mom!
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demand respect. hes most likely like that because of you, and not disciplining him the right way,teach him respect, its so important, he wont respect woman in the future and will eventually ruin his own life when he realises other woman wont put up with his crap, my exs mom was like that, no chores, no rent, no respect. she was an idiot who let him do whatever he wanted, and after analizing the situation, i realized it was totally her fault. he was great to me at first, but then started calling me names, then he got physically abusive. its your job to teach him respect. talk to him, tell him he can either a)start talking respectfully to you and others, keep himself and his room clean, respect your rules, and MAKE HIM HELP WITH CHORES so many parents dont do that anymore, you make dinner, he eats, he leave, you do dishes. how can he respect you if you do everything for him,dont be a doormat. OR he can b) move out. keep a checklist, give him 10 strikes, with the chance to earn an erased

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strike, tell him if he reaches ten, hes out, and seriously kick him out, tough love. he may hate you at first but he WILL thank you in the long run. im a 19 year old girl, with NOTHING but respect and love for my parents because of the rules and restrictions they set for me i also hated them for it at first, but it made me turn out strong, smart and independent.
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Teaching our kids respect is the key. I have 2 kids, a boy and a girl. My boy is 25, married with 2 kids. His wife is a strong woman who stands by him, not as a door matt. They are raising their kids as they were raised, w/love & respect.My daughter is 17 about 2 start her 1st year of college at an Ivy League. Neither has ever spoken to me w/disrespect. Even when they were going through teen 'rough' years. I watched other parents be 'friends',not parents, 2 childern.Let their kids speak & do whatever they wanted. Now those 'parents' have kids who treat them and others like crap. My son would correct his friends (when he was n H.S) if they responded 2 me with "huh" or what. No he is not 'soft', he was a baller. Sure..space and giving em time is nice, but if u didnt take those early years to raise them right, you just sent another problem into the world.
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I know I'm only 14 but I'm going through what he's going through. Give him a lot of space and try to kind of negotiate him. You need to understand that he just turned 18 and now has adult responsibilities so he's probably trying to figure out what's going on and you might be putting pressure on him or he feels like your starting to betray him for some reason so all I can say is give it time and give him a LOT of space to adapt. Inside he loves you but he's going through a tough time

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Ya because I'm interested in war and I believe that you have a lot of wisdom
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Oh... I'm sorry to hear that...
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My guess is he didn't just start this at the age of 18. But if he did he may need to be introduced to his new parent, "Drill Sargent". You are both old enough to make a few decisions about which way you want this to turn out. You can raise your expectations and demand more of him, which would be a big favor to him. (And it would also be your duty as a parent.) Or you can let him go on acting like a self centered child. Your choice. He is old enough to be on his own if he wants it that way...

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your son sounds like he need a double dose of "get the heck out of my house" actual doses may very, consult a doctor, pharmacist or police officer if bad attitude continues, "get the heck out of my house" is not FDA approved. you dont have to be a hostage in your home.

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He is going through "growing pains". He is trying to prove to himself and you he is an adult and ready for the world but secretly he is insecure. You still need to put your foot down and demand the respect you have earned, but remember how you felt when you were his age.

I read somewhere that fathers and sons usually go through this when the boy enters his late teens. The eternal struggle.

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I dont know about you but, at 18 I never "felt" like being a disrespectful brat who still lived with my mom. I was in college, which I paid for with grants and loans. I grew up in the hard neighborhoods of G Town, in Philly. Mom raised me the way I raised my kids. I gave her the respect I know she deserved.
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A wise woman (me) once said "She who payeth the bills, maketh the rules."

Sit him down for a talk and tell him how sorry you are for all the arguing lately and to make it up to him you have packed all his stuff neatly in boxes and called him a cab. Leave him with some good life advice - don't bite the hand that feeds you & don't let the door hit you on the way out.

Good luck

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I so agree with you.
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This question really pisses me off...sorry,dad,u aint been doing your ".fatherly/motherly duties"

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