Don't kick your son out on the street. Just listen to him and why he is being the way he is. Talk it out. And understand your son so he can understand you. just don't listen to everyone else here saying " he's 18 kick him out " you can still help him be a good person don't set him out into the world as a disrespectful kid.
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demand respect. hes most likely like that because of you, and not disciplining him the right way,teach him respect, its so important, he wont respect woman in the future and will eventually ruin his own life when he realises other woman wont put up with his crap, my exs mom was like that, no chores, no rent, no respect. she was an idiot who let him do whatever he wanted, and after analizing the situation, i realized it was totally her fault. he was great to me at first, but then started calling me names, then he got physically abusive. its your job to teach him respect. talk to him, tell him he can either a)start talking respectfully to you and others, keep himself and his room clean, respect your rules, and MAKE HIM HELP WITH CHORES so many parents dont do that anymore, you make dinner, he eats, he leave, you do dishes. how can he respect you if you do everything for him,dont be a doormat. OR he can b) move out. keep a checklist, give him 10 strikes, with the chance to earn an erased
I know I'm only 14 but I'm going through what he's going through. Give him a lot of space and try to kind of negotiate him. You need to understand that he just turned 18 and now has adult responsibilities so he's probably trying to figure out what's going on and you might be putting pressure on him or he feels like your starting to betray him for some reason so all I can say is give it time and give him a LOT of space to adapt. Inside he loves you but he's going through a tough time
My guess is he didn't just start this at the age of 18. But if he did he may need to be introduced to his new parent, "Drill Sargent". You are both old enough to make a few decisions about which way you want this to turn out. You can raise your expectations and demand more of him, which would be a big favor to him. (And it would also be your duty as a parent.) Or you can let him go on acting like a self centered child. Your choice. He is old enough to be on his own if he wants it that way...
your son sounds like he need a double dose of "get the heck out of my house" actual doses may very, consult a doctor, pharmacist or police officer if bad attitude continues, "get the heck out of my house" is not FDA approved. you dont have to be a hostage in your home.
He is going through "growing pains". He is trying to prove to himself and you he is an adult and ready for the world but secretly he is insecure. You still need to put your foot down and demand the respect you have earned, but remember how you felt when you were his age.
I read somewhere that fathers and sons usually go through this when the boy enters his late teens. The eternal struggle.
A wise woman (me) once said "She who payeth the bills, maketh the rules."
Sit him down for a talk and tell him how sorry you are for all the arguing lately and to make it up to him you have packed all his stuff neatly in boxes and called him a cab. Leave him with some good life advice - don't bite the hand that feeds you & don't let the door hit you on the way out.