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My 4 year old started peeing her pants again! how can I make this stop?

My daughter was FULLY potty trained and now.... will not stop peeing her pants! We have been in our new house for over 2 months, so i understood the change thing, but now were all settled. Also have a rewards chart, and its like she dont care. I do not know what to do... I put pullups on her, but now the daycare says they do not want her to revert back. And she just wont go to the bathroom! I always catch her holding herself, and such. I had her tested by the Doctor and no sign of infection. I feel so helpless and REALLY stressed! Can someone please help me out! Even if its just letting me know you have been there! Ughhh! Thanks so much!

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Patience Mommy...
I know it can be frustrating to have a child wet their pants especially at four years old. However it simply sound like she may be having a hard time adjusting to her new environment. Try taking her to the bathroom every 30 minutes for a couple of days, until she gets into the habit of going herself and by all means take the pull-up off - it's only making the problem worse. Good luck! :)

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Make a huge deal when she goes!
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Potty party part 2?
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How great is this! Thank you so much for your comfort!! I needed it!!! You guys are great! Im so glad I joined this community!!
I have been trying to take her to the bathroom, but shes getting angry with me when I do... like Im pressuring her or something... I try to make it fun, and offer rewards, dance like a nut! But shes getting upset with me!
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Potty party part 2?

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Ya know I have never had a potty party! What does this endeavorer entail?!
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It's Dr. Phil's thing! You can find exact "instructions" on google or different ideas, but it entails her favorite doll going potty and having a big party for the doll. Replete with cupcakes and hats! Then when your little girl goes on the potty you make a huge deal out of it.
When it comes to potty training, I'm all for bribes. Keep her favorite treat on hand and let her have a small portion when she goes.
Always remember though, it's tough being 4! Poor little thing!
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First: don't panic. Think about it. How many college kids aren't potty trained?
It may be she isn't as settled as you are. She may be looking for attention. Just try to not let it stress you cause that will stress. When you are feeling like this will never get better just ask yourself "how do you eat an elephant. One bite at a time"
If that isn't enough help just think you could be dealing with a teenager!

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Cookieroma, your wonderful! Thanks so so much! I really appreciate your humor! Your right though, I really need to try to stress... this WILL get better..... right?! lol...
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That's awesome! 8)
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only put her in dresses and skirts....sorry couldnt resist.

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LOL! That was a crack up
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im glad u enjoyed it. good luck with your kid. i hope everything comes out ok;)
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The above is exactly what I was going to recommend. She will get over it real fast if the urine runs down her legs. It starts stinging and itching right away. When you go somewhere at times, and your spouse or other adult can watch her, make sure she knows where your going, and make sure it's a place she really likes to go. Tell her, you can't go this time because it's only for big kid's that can potty in the bathroom. They get over things quicker than you think. Tell her she's not a baby and you will not get her anymore pull-ups, and don't or she will never stop. The point, star, check mark, sticker thing only works in the beginning. If others earn and she don't she will only go farther back. They are smarter than you think. Kids today are born knowing all about reverse phycology. You think you can pull something on them, but if you watch real close you will see them even at 3 and 4 totally reverse the situation on you, and they win.

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How absolutely right are you! They are so so smart! Thanks so much!! I will really try that!
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Have you taken her to the dr? She may have a kidney infection and makes It hard to control her bladder. Does she complain it hurts when she goes? I know that I experience it and can't hold back urine when I have a kidney infection. Just a thought.

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Oops sorry I read what you ph about dr. Sorry that'll teach me to finish reading sorry!
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No worries!! I appreciate the feedback and trying to help!! It means an awful lot to me! I should be getting the results back today!
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Is there a special toy she wants really badly? Tell her if she wants it she has to promise to go to the bathroom now like a big kid. If she doesn't promise after then take it away from her until she starts to go to the bathroom again. My mom did this to me, I really wanted a Carebear and my mom wouldn't buy me one. Evantually, one night during dinner i said "I gotta poopy" lol. I went to the bathroom and my mom went straight out and bought me a carebear. I always went to the bathroom after that. Don't yell at her or she will be scared. But, sometimes it was too late but, obviously I got better.

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i hate to say this but have the a doc check if she has ben raped or not that kind of trama can do something like this

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my daughter started peeing in er pants after being potty trained she has a twin brother and a brother a year younger i found out someone i thught was my friend molested her....maybe she needs to be seen?? God bless if u find somethng that works plz share cause i am still daling with it to

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I am going through the same thing right now with my 4 year old daughter...She was also FULLY potty trained and did really well wit it until a few months ago she started wetting her slef at least 3-4 times a day...if she only did it 1-2 times that was a good day...I had her checked out at the doctors and they said nothing was wrong with her and i tried everything like taking things away from her but it doesnt seem to bother her!!....I also dont know what to do and feel really helpless in this situation but I just wanted to tell you that your not alone and totally understand how you feel...I did just read to continue to take her to the doctors until they find out whats wrong with her even if its just a diagnosis of behavorial problems...another mom said her son was doing the same thing and she kept taking him to the doctors until they finally found out he had diabetes...so what i would suggest is to keep takin her to the doctors, ask for all kind of possible tests before you settle with it being behavioral...I'm also going to do the same!! :) Thanx for sharing with me and hope i got to help you as well!!! :)

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First thing: Don't give her attention when she does it maybe she just wants attention from you,and that's her only way she gets it.Second thing: Regularly help her,and frequently ask her if she needs to go or you know she does then take her to the restroom. Third thing: Tell her she will earn big girl underwear if she uses the toilet,and big girl underwear is special only good people get it. Good Luck!

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