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How do I know if I can trust my brother?

I'm a 16 year old girl. my brother is 17. I'm a junior and he's a senior. Hes the popular kid at school, the jock. I'm popular too, that's not the point. but I have extreme depression. my parents know. but I don't always want to come home and talk to them. can I trust my brother with whats going on? or is he going to tell his friends and then have it get around school? we get along pretty good. but he always says I am dramatic. I'm a girl, we all are. should I trust him? help please!!!

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Well try by telling him one small secret and see if he spreads that around. If he does then no you can't trust him but if he doesnt then you can trust him. Good luck :). If you ever want to talk then you can email me. It's on my profile

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Thank you(:
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If he says you are dramatic then I don't think so because he could go and tell his friends like it is not a big deal

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Thank youu
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It depends on his personality, maturity and the kind of relationship you have developed over the years. If you are the kind of person who has helped him with problems in the past without judging or embarrassing him, then it is likely that he will do the same.

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Thank youu. I embarrass him like a little sister would do. But he talks to me a lot about problems. I'm always there for him but sometimes I tell him to stop just because I can't handle his problems and mine. I feel really mean when I do that. But... I don't tell him about depression
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Do not ever tell anyone, family or not, anything you truly want to stay confidential. Only a counselor is bound by law not to reveal personal information. Remember, Cain slew Abel. Blood does not guarantee discretion. If you are depressed, you need to get help for that. Not all girls are dramatic. Your brother already thinks you overreact. Don't expect much sympathy from him. Find someone who can actually help. Good luck.

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Thank you. It's too late for that. :(
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If you are asking us this, then you have reason not to trust him. You can tell him you have been feeling a bit sadder than you should be these days, but no more than that. Remember that he is a teenager with his share of impulse behaviour and although he might not do you any harm, he could blurt. Tell him a little bit of the truth now and get treatment. Keep your parents in the picture and cooperate with the treatment. Later, when you are both in your 20s and out of school, you can tell him more of the truth. That is a compromise that you both can live with.

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Thanks. I kind of already told him. Now he won't talk to me. He gave me a hug and walked away. He won't tell anyone. He hasn't. But he won't talk to me.
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He won't talk to you because this is his first experience with depression and he loves you and he just has no idea what to say. But you could say, when I'm feeling quite down, it would help if you listened to music with me, or cooked something with me, or went for a walk along the path with me, or invited me along with your funny friends. Then he would know what to do.
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Thank you!(: he took me for a long drive today and we talked. You really helped
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