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shar18: 1 year ago

A guy just asked me out but he has a girlfriend, I don't know what to do, but I really like him.

We started texting and he was like yeah i have a girlfriend but we can keep it low key. and i said so your gonna cheat on her?

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hamath: 1 year ago

Wow... find a better guy! Seriously, you will always regret this. If you get the guy... you will always wonder if he is cheating on you. And he probably will. Why ruin your life? There are other guys out there who are neat too and that you can really like who don't cheat.

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shar18: 1 year ago

Thank you!

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HunterMatt: 1 year ago

Tell his girlfriend, so that she dont waste her time.

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Nerdgurl456: 1 year ago

Reject his sorry butt!!! And tell his girlfriend, she needs to know.

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lovin2sing: 1 year ago

The best thing to do is to go and tell his girlfriend what he said to u..... Even if he gets mad at you. U can just tell the other girl not to tell him that u told her

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juscurious: 1 year ago

What makes you think he won't do the same to you? He could have had at least the decency to break up with her first. Not a good guy move on :)

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HOTSNOT7: 1 year ago

Make him dump his girlfriend then after that you date him.

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shortynunez: 1 year ago

If he is cheating on his girlfriend with u, is it not obvious that he will do the same to u? There is many guys out there.

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Hagerboy: 1 year ago via iPhone

Maybe you should see if he dumps her then if he and you are still willing to go out then you do.

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supsup2345: 1 year ago via iPhone

Tell the other girlfriend and tell her and neither of you should date him

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Ra1nQuest: 1 year ago

I would say " if u already have a girlfriend we are only friends clear?! I'm not going to help you cheat on the girl you are betraying by liking me." I won't even consider going out with him unless he ended his relationship with his girlfriend at the right moment in time maybe mutually as to not break her heart because he likes you :'3

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jadesmama: 1 year ago

he doesn't like her-he wants one thing from her & when he gets it, he;ll brag about it all over school & the girl's reputation will be toast.

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Ra1nQuest: 1 year ago

say what!!! O_o where'd you get that idea from I don't see anything that says that lol

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reztra: 1 year ago via iPhone

If he will do it to her, he will do it to you. Can you imagine being his girlfriend right now? And she prob has no clue what's going on

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MAMowattJr: 1 year ago

In any given situation, as people who have the ability to reason, one needs to acknowledge what they are getting into. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you are anything but his "girl on the side", and know your role.

If you choose to go that route:
Don't get mad when he can't see you because he's with her.
Don't get mad when he asks you to be quiet when she calls his phone.
Don't get mad when he is out with you, but can't be affectionate in public for fear of who may be watching.

It is your choice, but what ever you choose know your role. Be honest with yourself, and you may be able to minimize your chances of being hurt, hurting "her", and feeling like a fool.

Fair tidings (may you receive from life what you put in to it).

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jadesmama: 1 year ago | Last edited at 6:44PM on 2/18/2012

He's a dog! What kind of guy would do that to his girlfriend? And by saying for you guys to keep it "low key", it sounds like he's ashamed to be seen with you. And WHY do you want to go out with a cheater who just wants what's in your panties? You'd really lower yourself to his level? By that, I mean that if you go out with him, YOU enable him to cheat on his girlfriend. If you don't go out with him, at least he won't be cheating on her with YOU. What kinds of awful names do you kids call the girls who go out with other girls' boyfriends? Well, if you go out with him, your reputation is shot cos whether you do it or you don't, HE'LL be there bragging about how far he got with you, & YOU'LL be the one the other girls won't want anything to do with. Of course, its YOUR choice-make the right one, please. While you're at it, tell his girlfriend-and SAVE THOSE TEXTS for proof, cos he'll deny deny deny! She needs to know what a low life he is.

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icanmakefrenchtoast: 1 year ago

If he was gonna cheat on her don't doubt he won't cheat on you in the future

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lilmisssniper99: 1 year ago

You need to tell him that if he really likes you that he is going to dump his girlfriend first and then go out with you...maybe.

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smoneyrocks: 1 year ago

Say yes if he really wants u he will break up with his old boyfriend and if he doesn't slap him and dump him

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mamatembo53: 1 year ago

If he is doing this to her, he will do it to you. I would stay clear of him, so you don't get hurt.
Take care! : D

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mikala53: 1 year ago via iPhone

Stay out of the DRAMA!! He's a LOSER/ABUSER !! A Player !!!
A no good HeartBreaker!!!

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fancynancy4: 1 year ago | Last edited at 10:09PM on 2/18/2012

tell his girlfriend and just ignore him

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