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Do you think you should stay married and not get a divorce just for the sake of the kids?

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Absolutely not! My kids and I are all happier after the split. My ex and I have a better relationship also.

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It took me and my ex a long time, but now we get along better then ever, hence making us better parents. And even though I still know he loves me and wants me back, he contains himself and we make good co-parents!
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Absolutely, we are the same way.
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No, No, No, No, No!!! I can understand why some couples think it is better, but it really isn't. Staying in a bad relationship or any relationship where you aren't happy is just gonna make you miserable. And this will have an effect on your children. They need two "happy" parents and given out society today, that is okay.

I was with my sons father for 8 years. I went through awful mental and physical abuse for all of those years because I thought it was best for my son. That is not the truth, it is just something that we think is best because of how families are "supposed to be."

All you have to do is make sure you gave it a good shot and there really is no other way to be happy except divorce. In the end, your chidlren wil thank you for it.

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Thank you so much for the comment. Our son is only 5, so I thought I should stay married for my son. But I am not happy at all. It's my husband's infidelity.
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I divorced my husband when my son was 5 as well. My husband was always cheating too. It is soo hard, but honestly, good when they are younger. Children adapt, they'l be okay. Just make sure that you have a great support system and a strong will when/if you decide to make the move because you don't want to have your son going back and forth with you two breaking up/getting back together over and over again.
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You gave me really good advise. Thank you!! I really hope that you are doing much better now and happy.
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It's been tough, I mean it was really rocky for like the first months-year. I was able to do my divorce myself and I paid nothing. :)
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Mine was cheating also. Sooooo much happier now! Stay strong and do what you know is best for you and your son.
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Thank you for the encouragement! I will be strong.
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I agree!! Kids are better with parents that are happy! Not fighting. Kids sense these things and it will effect them.

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I did & now it's 23 years later, I'm 100% disabled and stuck! So, I say get out while you can, don't be me in 20 years! Old, sick & miserable!

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What a tough think to survive. Things can still get better for you. Don't give up!
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No! Everyone is healthier when you cut your losses.

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Absolutely not!!! Your children will grow up with similar relationships as they see between their parents. I wanted more for my kids so I left and never looked back...it's not easy on anyone but kids are resilient. Good Luck!!!

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Thank you for your comment. I really appreciate it.
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therealguru

in todays times especially, that answer would be no

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