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Can a long(ish) distance relationship actually work?

Its not like he lives in Tennessee and me in New Jersey, no, nothing like that. He goes to a different school then me, like a close-rival school. We are actually neighbors but not like right next door neighbors. He is 2 grades older then me but is 1 year older then me(no i didnt flunk his birthday is in June) We see each other about once a month at library programs. WE are friends on Facebook and text all of the time. Its more of a secret relationship so no one ruins it. I dont think he would ever cheat but we LOVE each other so much.........could it work or will it break my heart?

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To be honest. They don't always work.

But I think it depends on the people, how far they are away from each other and how much they love each other.

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Hey, how have you been? I haven't talked to you in a while.
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Hey, I'm doing okay.

It has been awhile since we've talked. :) There's a new guy in my life now, but for right now we're just friends until I know that I can trust him with my love.

How are you?
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um well he is like a block away from me and we love each other very much
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wow i didnt realize that WE was like that lol i meant We lol sorry you guys
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I've been doing good. I've been having a little bit of boy (husband) problems like you were. But I'm sure my husband and I can work through it. And yes, you need to make sure that you can trust him and that he won't just break your heart in a couple of weeks. Some guys can be terrible, but some are great.
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@ Erikahampton Yeah. I'm taking it easy with this guy. I don't want him to turn out like Rhonie or Dorien..... Both of them were horrible.

@Chihuahualover231 So, what are you trying to say? What exactly are you afraid won't work about you and him?
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omg i love the @ symbol....sorry i dont know i just never felt love like this before and im just afraid something bad will happen because nothing good stays in my life long but we have been dating for 7 months and fall in love with each other every day. Im just afraid the distance, age difference, or other people will break us up i guess.
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Well, distance shouldn't be a problem. You guys should hang out after school, like at his house or your's or go somewhere like a park. Age shouldn't be a problem because you're only one year younger, right? and you guys shouldn't let other people get in the way of your guys loving each other. If you guys really love each other, you guys will pull through this. No one can tell you who to love.

At least that's what I've come to realize. I hope that you will take my advice and use it and keep it close to your heart and even though we don't know each other, just know that I'm hear for you because I know what you're going through and I know how hard it can be. I wish you the best of luck.
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@ RBBDDB23-thank you so much and we actually live right next to the park we walk around the fair together always and yes only one year. June 18, 1997 and December 14, 1998. Oh and im following you sorry hope you do not mind i just feel like i want to be your friend
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Oh Rhonie.. That name just means trouble.. I was in a little relationship with a guy named Ronnie. It didn't turn out well. He had a lot of other women that he was taking to. Motto mention, after I started talking to him I realized that he was 18 years older than me. I was only 17. He didn't look that old! Lol. But anyways, he was bad news.
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Lol.. That motto was supposed to be not to mention
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@Chihuahaulover231 It's alright, I'll follow you back. It's good to get new friends. :) I could use some new ones. xD

@Erikahampton Yeah, but this new guy's name is Rorie. :D
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or not..........thats ok too let me just look stupid out here lol thanks a lot Emelia!
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That's good :-) I hope he's better than the last two guys.
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@Chihuahualover231 What did you say? It got deleted.

@Erikahampton I hope everything is better with him. Even though I'm gonna wait to make my desicion. I deserve it and so does he. I don't want to get hurt but I don't want to hurt him either.
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I understand. I would take it slow too.
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And things are slowly getting better.. I just need for him to make some changes. He's doing some things that he shouldn't be doing that could (and eventually will) destroy our relationship. I hope he can stop, at least for his family.
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It could go both ways, yes or no. But if you love each other a lot then I din't think you'll have a problem.

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just try if its supposed to work it will

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I've only had one long-distance relationship and it was a disaster. Things may be different for you, but they aren't always the best :/

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Well. A lot of it depends on your age. If you're pretty young then it might not last just because of the age. It would help if it didn't have to be a secret. You two could spend more time together if people knew that y'all are dating. That's not very much distance so I wouldn't even really consider that a long distance relationship. If you don't get to see him very often then it might not last very long :-( Sorry.

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we dont tell many because teens in my grade always bug us until we break up. I just dont see him often but we talk every day and when we do see each other we make it worth our while
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Well, just try to make it last as long as y'all want it to. Thats all that you really can do. Hopefully it will last a while :-) I know that some people say that some people might be too young to be in a serious relationship but I was 19 when I started dating my husband. So unless you're just 14 or so then it could last for a while :-)
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crap.....im almost 14 and he is almost 15...........but i feel like we were MADE for each other! whats the chance of marrying your highschool sweetheart?
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It is possible.. I don't know how common it is now days but my parents got married when they were 17 and 18. But they started dating when they were 14 and 15 I believe. But that was back in 1972.. Times have changed. But it is possible to marry your high school sweetheart :-)
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Maybe

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If you REALLY love him/her that it should work out.if you don't like the person too much than,it won't work out.

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Are you in high school??? Will he be getting his drivers license soon? Of so, it could def work. But if not then I wouldn't count on it.

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well, he is in 9th im in 7th he is so sweet and is like me in every which way i think we were made for each other and his birthday is in june so he is only 1 year older actually.
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he isnt the type who dates a girl, dumps her, dates another, knocks her up, leaves her, sleeps with other girls. He ISNT like that he would want to finish college or at LEAST high scchool before ever having sex so the age isnt a problem except he will go to college first and graduate high school first but we can make that work
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If you want it to work, it will. =)

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No. Will not work. No way.

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gee someone is optimistic. Do u know this by experience or...? And you dont know (certain guy's name) but it will work
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Did he actually tell you he loves you?

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yes. Every time in person and every night before bed and sometimes during the day but we are normally busy at school or hmwk or stuff
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Okay, it might just work. So long as both of you are on the same page. Good luck
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It can only if you both want it too & are serious about it. So, it depends bc long distance is hard trusting & communication are the two biggest things and when you are young its hard to put yourself in that position. Your still young so maybe you want to date other people i mean If it is meant to be, it will be, & he will always be around no matter what. So if you feel that's it's right for you too to be together then be with him but if you feel you are missing out on something then don't do it.

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awwwe thank you that sounded so beautiful!
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AWEEEE!!! Morgan is in love!!!....he loves you ??? haha just wondering

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chick! bad Emelia bad! you dont say peoples names on here!!!!!!!!!!! and yes i cant stop thinking about him.......i feel bad aout throwing his 'baby' at the backboard lol!
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to all who read this..im talking about a basketball lol
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hey Millie where did u get ur profile pic?? i want to change my fb pic to that
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uhhmmm.....i believe i searched cute hands on google images.....dont ask why i searched that....haha
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disabled!
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*gigglegiggle* hehe i friggen LOVE p.e. bahaha
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same here!! hehe abort abort abort! u sounded like an astronaut!
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idk i am head over heels for him............

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it did it again
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haha.....
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Trenten is trying to look at my screen i am having to turn my screen around 180 degrees lol Emelia, you were right! Haha check our interests now!!!! DONT change it
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who is morgan?

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Yes. It could work. I know plenty that have worked out great, some with states between them.
But you would have to trust him.
If you don't cut it off now, cus if you doubt him at all one of you will get hurt.

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