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My boyfriend is 7 years older then me, is this bad in your opinion?

Im 19, Hes 26. Its possibe that I may move to CA with him. My parents hate the idea. Is this wrong to you? Been with him 1 year.

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yeah....you should not be moving with him, you never know what could happen. just be safe and dont get hurt...

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John_8715

Yes, period.

The age difference, not so bad, the LA thing, very bad idea...

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Because he is moving you away from your family and friends. A possible move to isolate you from them, giving him more control.
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John_8715
Just a long way to go at that age, if it were my kid going into an unknown I would feel better if she was closer to home, she didn't say where she lives, but I'm guessing it's a long way, and her parents have spent a lifetime raising her, they must feel very uneasy, and have a right to be very concerned, I know I'd be flipped out, put yourself in the parents shoes for a minute, now how do you feel, she's 19, not 26, she's following her passion and not using her brain as much as she should be.

But bottom line, she's legal, she can do what she wants...
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What's wrong with L A ?
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You're not there...
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well i lived in the hood best place to live with homies
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No I don't think it's wrong both of you are grown and should be able to do what y'all want to do

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If your in love do what you want

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I think just as long as you love each other the age thing doesn't matter... but the LA thing, I mean if you have been together for like a few years or so, and you know for sure nothings going to go wrong than it's okay, but if you have only been with him for a couple of months.. than no.

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Not a good idea!

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haha lol
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yes better be SAFE then SORRY

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Wow, you're exciting! :)
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No. My boyfriend and I are 17 years apart. You can't help who you fall in love with. I don't think you should move with him though.

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Agree with John. Age part is ok but moving to LA with him not good. Listen to your parents. I know you're an adult but you're still young. They're just watching out for you. Listen to them.

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For me dating someone way older than you is bad so no and you should not move in with him that's the worst thing to do

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Yea im with you guys This is a really bad idea your 19 and hes older than you you dont know what could happen One your not Married Two your hardly a grownup! Three You guys could break up and you will have no money < Maybe idk? Four How long have you been together?

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Its Ok but do not move in with him. not safe

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Yes, Since your over 18

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Age is just a number...but Family is family...what is more important to you?

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Depends on your maturity level, if anything happened and you broke up it could get really bad for you. The real question is would you be able to handle yourself living in LA without him?

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No that's not weird it wud be weird if u were under 18 but I think you are a little too young to be making that decision about moving to LA though u should wait a few more years

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Go for it! Age is just a number but for Las Vegas you may want to get married first.

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My partner is 7yrs older than me so no, I don't think that's an issue. As long as you're over 18 it's ok. If you do move just make sure you have something to come back to if it doesn't work out.. Best of luck :)

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Only you can know this answer if you truly want to go, then go! Good luck!!!

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age is okay though a little debatable - LA is crap and you dont give any inclination where you live and i hope its not far from your family and if it is i dont think you should go even if you really love your beau - you need to stay close to your peeps. how far are you from LA. and you dont think you should go or you wouldnt be asking - correct ? go with your first instinct and then think of your heart - you only have one family - both friends are a dime a dozen .

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If your like 13 then yes but in your higher 20's or 30's yes.

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7 years is not that big of an age difference. However, I'd need to know how long you two have been together before I could be a judge on if you should move in with him or not. If you've been together awhile and know he's right, go for it. If you've only been together a few months, then please please don't. That is not right. Wait awhile.

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She said she has been with him for one year.
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No he's got more maturity and moving is NOT a good idea AT ALL!!

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im 29, my girlfriend is 21, we have been together for 2 and a half years. we live together and we are both very happy and very in love.

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This is in my own opinion but you should break up with him because if you move in with him something might go wrong and you could loose him on your own. If he's 7 years older than you it's definitely no good. Listen to your parents what they say is right.

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yes, because your boyfriend is 7 how much are you and you are and you can have a boyfriend in grade 2 you are to small

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What the?? Her boyfriend is seven years OLDER than her. He is 26. Can you not read?
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It's fine

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Well, you are officially an adult, so do whatever you want.

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The age difference is fine. I would not move unless you had a ring on your finger and a wedding date was set.

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Yesyesyesyesyes VERY VERY BAD

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the age difference is not bad, but it depends on how long youve been dating if moving out to CA with him is bad

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No not at all I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 26 :) its perfectly fine your grown and if you love him that's fine .. but I love my family to be too far away from them, so him asking u to do that is weird I could see visit but live, idkk

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As you can see from all your answers, it's not the age difference, it's the move to LA that doesn't seem to be advisable. If this is such a solid relationship, and he expects you to give up your family and all you know, why am I not hearing wedding bells? Until this man is willing to make a major commitment to you, you should not be making one to him. Your parents are right to be concerned. If you guys break up, what's to stop him from tossing you out in the street. CA is expensive and you don't have the education to get a good job. Does he have the financial means to support you both? This would be a risky move, but you are old enough legally to make your own decision. Let's hope you are emotionally old enough to make the wise one. Let him move to CA by himself first. If he's doing well in six months, and you can't live without him, head west. This type of compromise would protect you and make your parents less fretful. If your bf balks at this, he cares more for himself than you. Best wishes.

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I like it Joannie - you don't sound anything like 46! :))
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Thank you. What does 46 sound like?
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Don't do it wait a little while
and if you still feel the same
then go for it but don't jump
into something you just might
end up regretting later take sometime and really think about
it do what's right for u not your
parents and not your boyfriend
good luck



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Yes

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As a male hairdresser, a brother, son, and awesome boyfriend i can tell you that i have heard absolute horror stories from dozens of women who "followed some a** hole" and sooner rather than later it ended and she was stuck somewhere with no friends, no family, and nowhere to turn after she gave up everything and the excitement of the move wore off. Try the long distance thing for a while to test the relationships strength and then make an informed decision. It seems romantic to do, and it is, but be smart. The 7 years is nothing. You women are way more mature than we are, so several years difference is better usually...hope this helps you to pause and think before you go all the way in.

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you seem like you know what your talking about. very honest answer
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only if he has gray pubes

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My parents are 14 years apart. I say age doesnt matter. Love is love.

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You're an adult-you don't need anyone's permission or input. You want to go to California with him? You go. BUT-before you make your mind up, read billywillz answer-you stand a very good chance of that happening to you. What if your man CAN'T get a job? Is he one of those who snaps easily? Has he ever lifted a hand in violence to you or threatened you? if so, you'll have a miserable life, far from the family support system that you'd need, but again, YOUR choice! But really, one year isn't very long to know someone.......

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that's not bad at all. Its completely legal and who cares what your parents think. Its your life not there's. Do what you think is right in your heart not what others think is right.

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look ur an adult if you have the money then go ahead just remember if it dont work out then go back lol

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Well with the years apart nah. that's not bad. But moving in with him, Yes! Moving in with people be4 marriage isn't good. Ok what if you beg your parents they let you go then even thou they are mad at you and you move to LA and then what if your relationship doesn't work out? Are you going to beg your parents to come home after you begged them to let you go!?
I hope all goes well!<3
~Maria

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well i don't think it is weird that you have a boyfriend 7 years apart i know a couple years apart but they were marred older like 30 and 40...you being 19 and wanting to go with a 28 year old is just well gross to me

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You just told her it's not weird for other people but that it's gross for her to do it. That's not very nice. You don't know them. I'm 22. My man is 39. We have been together 2 years and we love each other very much. You don't know me but you are going to judge anyway. Everybody does. I see nothing wrong with their age differences or mine.
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ok bad word chose in other words it is werid to move out with an 28 year old when you are only 19
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That I absolutely agree with. It is weird.
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Well 19 + 7 is 26. Where you got 28 I don't know. You think its gross to live with a 26 year old at my age, but you don't think its gross to be with him? Your statement is too subtle and contradicting, I cant exactly grasp it. Thanks for your attempt at an opinion though.
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If u love him u wuld move with him, and age does not matter

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AGE DOESN'T MATTER. if he can take care and love to you until you get married, well there's NO PROBLEM about it...

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that's the same age difference as my mom and dad it doesnt matter but dont do anything like move to la together your going to want your parents around eventually.

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its not rong love is love, just be careful

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It depends how old you are. If you're like 14 and he's 21 there's deffenetly a problem. If you're more like 17 or 18 its no big deal.

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Don,t go with him .It will create a lots of problems to you in future.

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I think it's cool if you love each other and if he gets you in my opinion

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not too big of a deal because you are an adult, but you are still young and have a lot to experience. He is old and has gone thought a lot of things you have not yet. Might want to wait.

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he olda enough to be yo stepdaD LOL

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o.O Grammar?
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Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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yes!!!! how old are you anyway? fyi i went out with a guy who waz 3 years older he totaly cheeted on me same thing happend to my friend but with a different guy of course

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I'm going out with a guy who is 5 years older than me for almost 6 months now. He is now a successful marine and is now stationed in Japan. I miss him, and even though he Skypes me, I'm not gonna move to Japan with him. You should do the same.

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you know whats really awkward... when he was 17 you were 10 anyway i dont think moving is a good idea

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