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Does a cheater ever deserve a second chance?

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Hell No

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lol i guess its time :(
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Time for what? That's just my opinion a girl could be so beautiful have everything I'd ask for in life I'd treat her the most amazing way once she cheats I'd look at her like a garbage bag flying everywhere in the wind...(lol not sure why I said that) but my point is I wouldn't look at her the same EVER again
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Yeah, I can't stand cheaters ever. My feelings run deep especially if I'm in a relationship, so I don't think I could trust that person regardless of how nice they were in the past. People should be honest and not do things behind other people's back.
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bleeding_lullaby

How many times was he a cheater?

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once
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I believe he would deserve a chance... everyone does.
If it happens again though, I think that is when to call it quits.
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MrsMathers
Why would you stick around to see if he is going to do it again? Do you want to feel that betrayal and heart break twice? I didn't think so. Once a cheater, always a cheater!
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yesss,,, I AGREEEEE
not deserve second chance
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bleeding_lullaby
No one deserves a second chance...?
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Nope!
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>w<"

I always believed that everyone has a second chance to make things better with what they have learned in the past with their mistakes....
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Nah, not with a cheater. if you want to try it, be my guest. i just always thought after someone cheated, it would be hard to trust them again. they'll eventually just do it a second time probably
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Well, you have your beliefs, ( I respect that ) and I have mine. (:
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I would never trust a cheater again. I respect your beliefs too though. I could FORGIVE a cheater, but second chance? never
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No. If they truly love you then they wouldn't go behind your back.

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exactly! :) great answer
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HELL NO, no way should he have a second chance! He/she do not deserve it. My friends ex cheated 3 time on her in the 10 months they dated. how ever I count how many times he slept with those three people, so it was more like 27 times. She took him back after i wasted time warning her, now she's more miserable than she was without him. Go figure.

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Nope. Take it from someone who knows. Once a cheater, always a cheater!

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No, it is better just to move on. Do you really want to waste the time and pain to find out?
A little rule of thumb- If a dog bites you once, shame on the dog. If a dog bites you twice shame on you.

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i love that saying:)
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Thanks me too! My dad told me that and I didn't like it, but it turned out to be true!
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If My Boyfriend Cheated On Me, He Wouldn't Have A Seconde Chance, If They Cheat They Didn't Deserve The First Chance

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Agreed. No one does male or female.
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hell no

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well then ill tell him dont let the dor hit cha where the gudd lords split cha :)
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good u do that r u a guy or a girl? just cur
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girl:)
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okay just tell him u want the door to hit him on the way out hard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:)
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he mite get lucky and i jst wont break my foot off in his butt :)!
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nice dont give him any chances
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if u need help i know MMA
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lol yea thts whats up :)! u should ad me on facebook my name is LeeAndra Luviee Yhuu Thompson. we would get along get lol! maybe he needs a few foots in is butt!
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lol i dont have a facebook my parents would read mine and i dont like that i have to many private convs
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o.O ok well still thanks!
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anytime
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give him 3

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r u nuts!?
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ikr? do you want to get your heart broken 3 times you fool?
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Well that's actually completely up to you! We can talk about our past experiences n let you know wat happened with us but that doesn't mean your partner will do the the same thing! Cheating leaves you with a major lack of trust which impacts the relationship severely... Without trust, it's very hard to continue on! Take care n have a good day:)
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wow ill never forget that:)
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Great answer, as usual. Thumbs up!
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Great answer bud!!
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Thnx guys:) hey MISSPRISS... Long time no see
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That's a decision only you can make. You've obviously caught him once, otherwise it'd be a third or fourth chance. Are you sure that it was only once? If it is worth trying in your opinion, give it a go. Remember, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me-good luck

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No no no no no no no no no

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well with a total of 9 no's i guess i wont:)
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I'm with you! Thumbs up!
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i still have jesus u guys!
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Damn I forgot a no so...no
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Everybody deserves a second chance. Just dont let somebody stab you in the back again if you know what i mean

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it depends on who the person is . do you trust them .for example does a sick kitten deserve to go to the vet ,but does a criminal deserve to live.?

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Its up to how you feel, but honestly no because of you forgive him he will just play yuh again

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Yea bn there n done that...well he dne it to me.
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Hell No

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hell to the no!!!!! once a cheater is always a cheater!!!!

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No way, don't give him no more chances, I've been there, you will never trust him again, I gave my boyfriend of 8 years a second chance, and on the third time, I threw him out, I don't have to worry no more , about wondering who he's with, where's he at and what he's doing! Now I know! He broke my heart 3 times, it'll never happen again! Hang in there and move on

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no, who says he won't do it again? Honest try to forget him and move on trust me...i'm bout to throw my hands up in my relationship and give up... </3

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I think it depends no person cheets on purpis

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makes no sense
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No, someone who chose to be with someone else over you does not deserve a second chance. A boy that is worth your tears will not make you cry

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true! :) great answer
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If he cheated on you once then he will be tempted to do it again and again. If you give him more chances then you are just opening your heart to more pain and it will make him think that if he does it again then you will forgive him again and just go back out with him.

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I agree
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thank you i have gone through this and it is not pretty
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Yes-cheaters CAN change...people aren't always "bad" because they make a poor choice in their lives. How would you like to be shunned by your friends if you made one mistake and none of them would forgive you for that ONE mistake?

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yeah so you can get them b

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lol this makes no sense
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ummmm yeah no cuz u never know if theyre gonna do it again

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Why stick around to find out? -_-
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Wait, never mind forgive me I misread your answer
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Umm in my opinion no because once he cheated on you and you forgived him hes going to keep on doing it a person never changes/: he/she might change for a while but then shes back to being the same person /:

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It's your call, but whatever you do... make the jerk sweat it out for a little bit.

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it depends how many times he/she did it also f the person lied to you saying he didn't when you caught him then NO WAY but i believe in second chances so yes maybe..... if he really begs and you see that he/she cares

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If they cheated on you once...then that's your call and what you think you should do. But if it's MORE than once, or with more than one girl (believe me, it can happen), then move on and forget him. He doesn't deserve you, and he isn't worth your tears.

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Depends on the type of cheating... Boys will be boys! Girls will be girls! It's the forbidden fruit that attracts the most desire!!! Ask a fine couple which go by the name "Adam & Eve"

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no. they messed up and they shud deal with the consequences. if u really love him, then take it slow.

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It really depends on the circumstances. I know people are going to despise me for this, but if "cheating" means he kissed another girl in a moment of weakness and confessed the next day, then that isn't so bad. But if it was more than that, like he was hooking up with someone else. Well, obviously that's another story...

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no he will just cheat on u again trust me i had this happen to me

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I think so, because they have relationship issues that can eventually resolve through dating random people. Yep, that's it!

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imabeliever

no because all you are doing is setting yourself up for heartbreak:)

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Hell No

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MrsMathers

NO. Why, so they can do it again!?

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yes. if they hadn't ment to do it and it was an accident.. then yes. I believe they should. as long as they promise not to do it again...

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No. Once a cheater... always a cheater.

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yes cause what if they havent ment to and its a accident. if it hurt them to and they actually have regret for what they have done then you should. if that's what you do then just forget the past and just think of this new relationship as its the first time you have ever dated. if you think about them and you feel something and if they have told you that they still do and they love you and wish things never had happened then yea sure go for it try it again and maybe this time will be even better.

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SO he's just cheated once.. therefore you should forgive him if you really love him and if you don't have proofs forgive him but if he cheated again you should let him free. But if you really really love him give him the last chance and never forgive him when he do that cheating again :)

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Once a cheater always a cheater !!!!

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Sorry but no he he cheated on you once then he'll do it algain

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NO! Because the reason that they cheated on you in the first place and those problems didn't just go away with the person he cheated on you with. Also, if you're talking about 'kissing' someone else while your dating then it's less serious. But if it was having intercourse with another individual then there is the lack of trust and all healthy relationships have the base of strong trust in one another. But, in my spiritual belief I believe u should forgive everyone No matter what they have done to you, although forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean getting back together with them.

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yes if he really luv u and don't his back toward u

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no once a cheater always a cheater

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If he/she is worth giving another chance then yes, but i know what u shouldn't do, don't act like nothing happen. Always expect the unexpected,because u never know if he/she might cheat again

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If you cheat on a test u shouldn't be allowed to retake it

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