In my opinion, this is a decision to make on your own. No one should put pressure on you to bend your principles. You can take some time off to think clearly about things and make a decision that you will follow. Do not let pressure put you in a position that you are not ready to face.

Do you really want your first time to leave you with a feeling of guilt? I for one didn't feel guilty when I married my wife.

GingerWolf: 3 months ago

I really wouldnt feel guilty about it, im just not sure whether to wait to keep up my religious standards or go with it because i love him

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Alaskaman: 3 months ago

Well, even in the Bible people had sex before marriage. It just isn't something you want to emotionally expose yourself to a bunch of people with. If you see yourself with this person, and are self-sufficient enough to raise a child if one happens, remember birth control is only 99.% that leaves 1% which is 1 in 100 times people have protected sex someone get pregnant, then by all means go for it.

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This is what I tell my kids - "sex is a gift you give of your body that you can only give once.". So, just make really sure that this guy is important to you and you to he. Speaking from personal experience, I've been married 26 years and I don't remember having sex with any of the 5 guys I slept with before I got married. You know what I did get though? An STD that will haunt me the rest of my life. I hope this helps AND if you DO the deed PLEASE take precautions! Love girl!

If the only reason your even thinking about it is because he keeps on pressuring you then dont give it to him. but if you are having serious thoughts because you are thinking about it without any pressure from him that is your choice. just dont be pushed to do something that you dont want to do. i see so many girls do this and then they get their hearts broken by the guy cause thats all he wants.

GingerWolf: 3 months ago

No pressure from him, it was something we have been discussing for a few months now.

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blakewagner09: 3 months ago

k well i tell yall what to do... pray about it

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GingerWolf: 3 months ago

a very good idea...

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Alaskaman is right. If having sex is going to make you feel bad you aren't ready to have sex yet.

if there is doubt----don't

You have your entire life to have sex. And to be quite blunt there is a lot of emotional distress that comes afterwards if you and he break up. It is such an emotional and spiritual thing. If you are questioning if you should then you are probably trying to talk yourself out of keeping your card. Also if you have been talking about it for months then there is no rush. Wait until you are 100% ready. You want to make sure that you have sex with someone you love. There are also so many things that go into having sex such as pregnancy and stds as stated before. And those things can happen to you. I am not a sexual counsellor by any means however I can tell you from personal experience and by talking with my husband,friends and family sex with your spouse is the most satisfying sex you have. You have such a deep connection with that person that I could not understand until I did get married. I don't know how many people can say that they totally enjoyed their first time. I was 17 and I can tell you that it was very emotionally hard at times because I had always said I would wait as well. However we dated for 2 years before and 3 years after and I am not sorry I did not wait because he was my first true love. With that being said I also would not have missed anything if we had not I do not feel. As much as some may want to play it off for a physical act it really does go much deeper than that. Make the best decision for you:)

Im a christian myself,and also have strong belifs that i should wait till marrige.i sugguest you to stop talking about it and talk about other things.if you feel pressured then simply tell him no. MUCHO SUERTE MEANING GOOD LUCK! :D

How old are you? How long have you been with him? Are you prepared to breakup after if he has had all he can get from you and moves on to the next one he can talk himself into? Are you prepared to feel guilty? Are you prepared for him to tell all his friends? Are you prepared for him to keep asking to do it again and again and again. Do you know that he will get pleasure from this but you won't understand the real pleasure for a long time and feel used for his pleasure? Are you prepared for possible pregnancy? Is he prepared to stick with you and be a father who can support his child? If you say yes to all and it's all ok with you then you are possibly mature enough, but I would think hard. Sex is an expression of something meaningful not just a shopping spree. Make sure your values are worth it. You are paying for this trip he is getting the ride for free.