The 20-year anniversary is a milestone in any marriage, but how do you select the perfect gift for your wife? It should be both something your wife will appreciate and something that celebrates two decades of marriage. Every anniversary has traditional and modern gifts associated with them, so the issue is how to incorporate those traditions with your wife’s personal taste. Luckily the traditional gifts associated with the twentieth anniversary are so broadly defined that there are many possible gifts and a thoughtful husband is sure to find something that his wife will find unforgettable.
The traditional gift for celebrating 20 years of marriage is china. Unless your wife is a sucker for beautiful plates, buying her a set of china crockery may feel dated, not to mention slightly sexist. If, however, you want to stick to the traditional theme of china, you could give her a china vase or ornament. If she already collects china ornaments, it will be especially appreciated if you buy her a particularly hard to find or expensive piece to round out her collection.
Over the years, many have taken the china theme and expanded its meaning, moving away from the rigid porcelain definition. Why not do the same if you know a gift of delicate china won’t be appreciated? You could surprise your wife with a dream trip to China to see the Great Wall and experience vibrant cities like Shanghai and Hong Kong. If your wife loves to travel, this would truly make for an unforgettable twentieth anniversary.
Since china can be perceived as formal, stuffy, and out of step with modern tastes, a new set of gifting traditions have been established for the twenty-first century. Platinum is the material for choice for modern twentieth anniversary gifts, a metal sure to please most wives. Jewelry is the most common, and probably satisfactory, platinum gift that can be given. From rings to earrings to necklaces, there is a vast array of jewelry choices that could work. Also, if you want to combine traditional with modern, emerald or yellow diamonds are the associated gems of the twentieth anniversary. You could choose a piece of jewelry incorporating both the platinum and one of those gems. If you don’t want to buy jewelry, you could always use the platinum theme in another way. You can give your wife something you know she would love in the platinum color.
No matter what you settle on for the main gift, flowers should always be part of the gifting equation. The day lily, a gorgeous flower that comes in a variety of colors, is associated with the twentieth anniversary. You can choose a bunch of them in your wife’s favorite color and arrange them in a vase made of either china or platinum, depending on your wife’s preference.
Of course, nothing is set in stone. The gift you give your wife for her twentieth anniversary should be for her, not for tradition. If you feel like she would appreciate a traditional gift, be sure it still reflects her tastes. It’s about her, not arbitrary rules.